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*uzannah
writes:Me n my man been off n on for a year n have its been not so good in the first it was awesome then he stopped showing he cared he snaps n yells wants to always go out with out me I have to ask to come or even have a drink with him I have too do what he says n so on I love him a lot but confused in how to feel also found out he has been sleeping around but lies when I ask what do I do Reply to this Question
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (26 April 2016):
 What do you do? You say goodbye to him.
This man isn’t honest, respectful, caring or kind. He’s a loser. So lose him as soon as possible!
Stop talking to him, stop sleeping with him, stop any contact whatsoever with him.
If you are having trouble with that then ask your best friends for help. There are women’s organizations that help women detach from abusive partners, if you need that we can find you them in your area.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (26 April 2016):
 I am not sure why you would want to call him your man, do you see a happy future? Is this the way you want to spend your life with a man who wants to go out without you and does not show he cares, is this the life you want?
He is controlling telling you what to do, and him sleeping around shows he does not care for you. You may love him but he does not love you. Am sure this is not the person you want to grow old with and have children with? Someone who shows no love or respect? You could catch an STI from him if he is sleeping around, so please do be careful.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (26 April 2016):
 I agree with BrownWolf,
You are allowing his to treat you in a way you KNOW you don't deserve, because you "think" you LOVE him.
What exactly is it about him you love? And is that something you "see" in him any more? Or was that only in that first year of dating?
It seems to me that he is PURPOSELY being mean, rude, controlling and disrespectful to you in hopes that you will "go away" and let him do what he wants.
He seems unhappy and he is taking that out on you, THAT is not love.
WANT more for yourself. WANT more from a partner. And yes, LOVE yourself more.
Don't settle for this guy. Let him go. LET him do whatever he wants but as a single man, no longer your BF.
CUT the contact and move on.
You DO deserve to be treated right. To be an EQUAL in the relationship.
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reader, BrownWolf +, writes (26 April 2016):
Hi Suzannah,
Basic logic...You know what he does is wrong, because you are upset enough to talk about it. You know this is not the way you want to be treat by any man or anyone for that matter.
You say you love him a lot...But you do you love yourself a lot??? If you did love yourself, you would never allow him to be treat the way you do, or love someone who does not love you back.
Start loving these kind of men, and you are heading down a very dark and painful road.
Take back your love and move on to a better life. There are millions of men in the world, don't start settling for the worst ones.
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