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*aggal
writes:Hi, About four years ago I met a man who worked in one of the shops down the road. I didn't know who this person was but for some reason I had fallen in love with him. Soon after we started talking and texin 40-50 texts a day. He knew that I loved him. When I met him he claimed that he wasn't married. After a year I was regulary coming into the shop (he owns and works in). There were hints that he did have a wife. Soon after the wife confronted me and at that time he had 1 child and she was pregnant with another one. He denied the fact that he had any children and said that he wasn't married. This man never used to say I love you verbally only at night he used to text it. I spent over £70,000 on him, I organised his sister's wedding and everything free of charge, I did all his running aroung e.g banking, getting things and stock for his shop... I sent him on holidays on valentines days and birthdays and he can't even remember my birthday.. I have done every romantic thing in the book and yet he does nothing for me. Take last week for instance, it was my birthday weekend and I thought on Saturday to do something out of the blue for him. I spent over a month planning this night. I hired a violinist to learn and play all his faviorite tunes. Anyway so I hired a big room with a table for two, to eat. I decorated the room with lots of roses and candles. About 2 hours before I was going to pick him up and blindfold him, he text me saying make sure there's no food, I'm full. I just thought you know what, but I wasn't getting this night ruined after all the planning I had spent doing. When I picked him up, he came in the car, I asked him to put the blindfold on and he kept refusing, but eventually he put it on. When we came up the stairs in the room, he took his blindfold off and he didn't say anything. He didn't hug me or anything. We sat down and orderd the food. The violinist came and he was like wow but yet still he didn't give any gesture of thank you towards me. We talked about general things. He didn't even say I looked nice. To be honest with you he was a bit more botherd about asking the violinist if he could take some lessons!! After I asked him do I look nice... (Ii had to ask him!!!) So then he went and lay on the bed and fell asleep. I cried and cried for at least 2 hours and he didnt even notice. he woke for a brief second and went back to sleep. I thought to myself what I have I done soo wrong to be treated like this. I started to clear all the things away and yet he was sleeping all the way through it. When I finished and he woke up I just went out through the doors and I didn't hold the door for him to go through. All the way home we didn't talk. I was soo upset. My birthday was on Monday and guess wat happened, he didn't remembered suprise suprise. I got a birthday cake, wrote happy birthday gave it to him in the shop and walked out. Right now he is claiming that he did nothing wrong and that it's all my fault. He's a liar. He has got his wife pregnant again and he denied that. He says I'm acting like a child. Me!! The child? He has the audacity to tell me to go do his banking. After this weekend! I am emotionally exhausted and he knows that I've been having panic attacks and I cry all the time and he says there's nothing wrong between us. He shows no concern. Does he love me?? Is it my fault?? What have I done wrong??
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2008): Sorry to hear about your problem, but it seems that you let it happen without meaning to. This guy showed no appreciation for all that you did for him, but you kept right on going. Ever hear the saying 'turn the other cheek'?Even THAT has its limits. If your asking if he loves you, try not doing so much for him and see if he does anything for you.No man is worth the kind of grief your putting yourself through and forgive me dear, but this sure as heck doesn't sound like love..
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2008): Simple... you allowed him too! Why not make YOU happy?
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reader, paggal +, writes (24 November 2008):
paggal is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhi u guys dnt understand im marrid in a violant relationship i didnt chose to fall in love i have no money i sold my gold and in debt i did without thing just so i could make him happy,he was my love i worshiped himhe use to clik his fingrs and id b there i wasent tryin to buy his love ive just got a good heart is that so bad he stopd texin me and im realy hurting cos all i did was love him every one who knws my situation all said he used me and that i was too too goog for him i feel sick and suffer panic attaks i know i spoilt him im to blame there but how could he treat me this way
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2008): Me again ..you possibly have missed the deadline for this shoebox appeal but i bet there are very needy children on your own doorstep...same principle.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2008): Hi
Happy Birthday for monday gone.....
All i know is when your money runs out so will he...ohh and his wife.
Money wont buy you love...never has and never will.
When you understand this and find a real man and available with real love for you...you will realise all he needs is you.
You say you SENT HIM ON HOLIDAYS...i see a little POWER within these few words. You are both at fault.
There is nothing wrong in having money its how you use it that matters.
You wanna feel real love? and buy presents!!!!!!!!
Its coming up to christmas....how about this type of love?
SHOEBOX APPEAL!!!!!!
SPEND A COUPLE OF QUID BY FILLING A SHOE BOX..FULL OF CRAYONS AND SWEETS AND CHRISTMAS GOODIES...FOR A LITTLE GIRL OR BOY AROUND THE WORLD..WRAP IT IN XMAS PAPER. THAT IS THE LOVE YOU WILL FEEL ON CHRISTMAS MORNING, WHEN YOU KNOW THAT SOMEWHERE IN THE WORLD SOME little KIDDIE IS GOING TO FEEL CHRISTMAS AND BELIEVE IN CHRISTMAS AND KNOW THAT THEY WERE NOT FORGOTTON...sounds soft but it is true.
Maybe you could get over this guy buy thinking...what you would have spent on HIS CHRISTMAS PRESENT...Youll spend on a single shoebox for a stranger and you get no return as such because its anon.
v.c.d.
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