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He sent me a naked photo with a comment about his penis. I was unimpressed. Shall I just give up? What do you think he's playing at?

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Question - (10 March 2013) 8 Answers - (Newest, 11 March 2013)
A female United Kingdom age 41-50, anonymous writes:

Hi, I have been dating this guy for nearly a month now.

We had three dates only.

First one, we just got to know each other over coffee and it was good, we liked each other!

Then, before the second date, he wooed me by texts, we then saw each for the second date for coffee, drink at a bar and romantic Italian restaurant, he gave me a lift back home and we kissed and flirted.

Then, third date, I invited him to see me one evening, we again kissed and kissed.

After that i received less and less texts from him, and I had to keep being the one sending a text.

Until this weekend, where he sent a pic of him naked!!!! Then adding a message saying "my p*** in your mouth".

I obvioulsy didn't find that romantic... I told him that he he was looking for sex only, I wasn't the right person...

He answered by apologising and said he had feelings for me and was ready to wait I was ready for sex... and this morning, he sends me a text saying " I Love you"???

Shall I just give up? What do you think he's playing at?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2013):

I think the the answer here gents is, don't send a picture of your willy, ever. It's as attractive as a dead chicken on a meat counter and about as sexy when you send it to someone you barely know.

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A female reader, R1 United Kingdom +, writes (10 March 2013):

R1 agony auntUrgh why would any man think us women want to receive a pic of their penis! Yes we know what they look like thanks!

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A female reader, PerhapsNot United States +, writes (10 March 2013):

PerhapsNot agony auntHe sent you a picture of his dick with the message "my penis in your mouth" after only seeing you 3 times. I think it's pretty clear he wants oral, sex or both.....AND he is not very smooth about it either. Since he is not getting it, he he made sure to give you a very CLEAR message on what he really wants. If you ever want to know what he wants, check that message. This is as blunt as it gets.

After you shut him down, he knew you were not the easy type. He knew he had to pretend to have some deep feelings for you, so you'd be more inclined to sleep with him. He is hoping you're stupid enough to over-look the fact that after sending you a picture of his dick with a message, you would find his "I love you" text somehow believable. Not only does he not have any game, but he is also insulting your intelligence. Move onto the next one.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2013):

Thank you ladies for your comments. You are just comforting me into what I thought I should do!!

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (10 March 2013):

So_Very_Confused agony aunthe's giving you words to make you have sex with him.

he's a creep honey... he's only after sex...

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A female reader, Intrigued3000 Canada +, writes (10 March 2013):

Intrigued3000 agony auntOMG...he's totally trying to play you and he's not even doing a good job at it. His only goal is to have sex with you. If you're looking for a sex buddy or a one night stand, then he's the guy for you. If you are looking for a relationship, look elsewhere.

I am sure he's doing this with lots of other women. It's just a numbers game with him so he can get laid.

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A female reader, oldbag United Kingdom +, writes (10 March 2013):

oldbag agony auntHi

What a plonker. Yes he does want sex, don't know if that's all he wants.If I read right you invited him to your place for the last date,kissed alot and he left - frustrated.

He then sent *the* photo and message, which made it crystal clear he wants to get physical. You do not, not yet.Plus there's the chance he may get what he wants and then vanish.

Personally I would find his photo message insulting and lacking in respect for you.He's a desperate man.Forget him.

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A female reader, Ciar Canada +, writes (10 March 2013):

Ciar agony auntI think you should dump him without another word.

His behaviour was appalling and there is no excuse for it. There is nothing he can do to redeem himself here and keeping him around cheapens you. Do yourself and the next woman a favour and block and delete him permanently.

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