He seems to be running away from his feelings, what do I do?

A female age 36-40, *lapure4 writes:

I've known my guy friend for nearly four years and counting. For the most part, I'd say we had a healthy relationship. On a regular basis, we'd converse during the week to talk about family life, careers/ambitions, friends, dating, etc. Also, we share a lot of the same values, standards and morals since we come from stable families and have a lot in common. Over the summer, we planned to have movie and pizza night at each others houses (mainly at his parent's house with just the two of us) and it was fun! I respected the fact that we had a mutual friendship and wasn't more than that because he was someone I could rely on if I needed some male advice. At the time, my ex-boyfriend felt that he was infatuated with me which I vehemently denied because there were no signs (from the eyes could see), that he had strong feelings for me. Secondly, I sensed that my ex could of been a little envious too! I didn't believe nor see that he had a crush on me until he told me several months later after my relationship fell apart. He expressed his feelings and couldn't quite get the words out, but I told him that our friendship meant more to me than anything and that it was best to remain friends. When I said that, I wasn't prepared for what would take place or how I would feel about him in the coming months. For so long I suppressed my feelings too that when it came to the actual "conversation," I was ill-prepared for it. Let's just say one night this mutual connection developed into something intimate (without the sex) and we professed our love to each other. He even went as far as to ask me to be his girlfriend which I felt was too soon considering I just came out of a serious relationship. The next day, he called me and said that he regretted everything and wanted to be friends. He also displayed some odd behavior over the phone or when we'd have to meet up. There was always some underlying reason for why we couldn't see each other..it was as if his behavior over the past 24-hrs shifted like night and day. I don't know what I did to deserve this or if he is in the wrong, but I've even reached out to him for answers and he gives me modest to little or no responses. I've always believed that a "real" man is going to step up to the plate and talk about whatever is on his heart.even if its something as professing his affections for someone. But he seems to be running away from them. What should I do?

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