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writes:I have been with my boyfriend for several months now and we were friends for a couple years before we started our relationship. We have a lot of fun and spend a lot of time together. However, I find that he can be really selfish sometimes and I am often left wondering if he even appreciates me. A recent example of this would be when he and I were invited out to a friends cabin for a few days; I had a prior commitment that would delay the time in which we left for the cabin, he wasn't willing to leave later so he chose to go without me. Perhaps I am being overly senstive but I feel that I deserve someone who feels my wants and needs are at the same level of importance as their own. How should I handle situations like these and how long should I put up with his selfishness? Reply to this Question
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reader, Nora_Bird +, writes (28 July 2009):
Nora_Bird is verified as being by the original poster of the question Well, I still haven't said anything to him about it because I don't know how to approach him without sounding like nag, you know? What should I say?
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reader, jam22  +, writes (27 July 2009):
 Yeah, he does appear to be kind of selfish with just that example of selfishness. I would think that he could have waited for you. The cabin experience was not going anywhere, and the fact that you could not go because he did not wait for you...very ungentlemanly-like behavior. HMMM...talk about it with him, and see what happens next...Good luck to you...
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (27 July 2009):
 Hmmmm. He does feel his wants and needs are just as important as yours which is why he left earlier, and didn't submit his needs to yours. He probably felt you could meet your own needs by yourself.
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