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writes:Hi there :) I met a guy about 2 months ago and we really hit it off. At first he was super keen and was constantly texting..ten over Xmas/ new year he went home to his parents and I hardly heard from him. As soon as he was back we started to speak again and he seemed keen to see me... I slept with him, and he continued to be interested... He even asked me to go over and cuddle, when he knew it was time of the month...he asked to meet in the daytime, came and hung out with me and my friends, sent me baby pics of himself etc etc...anyway, the other day I was drunk and text him ( he doesn't really drink) I asked him to come and meet me, he said he was having an early one... Then I said ' I have never had a guy let me down as much as you, should it watch 'he's not that into you again' haha' and he didnt reply... Two days later, still no reply so I sent a text saying ' I'm sorry about the drunk texts, obviously I was joking' still no reply... It's been 4 days and he has just completely ignored me :( I really don't wanna come across as needy but need to know the situation so I can have some closure! It's really really cutting me up. Thanks for yor help guys xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2015): You have done nothing wrong. It was a drunken 'testing' text a little cheeky but so what. If that puts him off then he's not worth it anyway. Sending cutsie baby pics is just a tad more familiar really but who sets the rules? Both are no big deal and no you don't come across as needy either just a little tipsy and it's silly for him to ignore you over that. I would let it go. Be yourself and relax you have done nothing wrong. His loss if he wimps out at a text like that....
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2015): I think that comment you made about feeling let down by him or whatnot probably scared him off. I mean he told you he was tired and was gonna call it a night. I don't think he was trying to blow you off. And instead of just saying goodnight you sort of took it to another level. And started questioning his interest in you. It came off as kind of needy. I put myself in his shoes, and if I were starting to date a guy and I told him I couldn't meet him because I am tired and going to bed and instead of saying goodnight, he said something to that extent, I too would be turned off. I'd find it weird. Just don't act needy. This guy who I had been dating for like a month also blew me off out of the blue. I didn't call him or anything. And then a week later he called and apologized for blowing me off like that. I didn't even care anymore at that point.I am sure he will come around. They always do. Just stay busy and be extra conscious to avoid coming off as needy in the future. You will be alright.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (29 January 2015):
 Delete his number, move on. You barely knew him yet expected the he "obviously knew" you were joking..... Maybe he didn't. Maybe he saw it as an eyeopener. If she is like this drunk....
You expected him to drop everything for you because you wanted him to, and when he said no, you "joked" that you were offended, to me that wasn't really a joke. It was one of these really bad "relationship tests". Let's see how high he jumps.
And like YouWish mentioned, HE wasn't looking long term.
Sharing baby photos is a GREAT way to seem like he is making you part of his life. It's like the kind of dude who borrows a puppy to take to the park, because girls think puppies are cute....
Just delete and move on.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (29 January 2015):
 He most likely would have vanished anyways, but your seeming drama probably accelerated it.
The real reason was that he got what he wanted, which was sex. The two months were nothing because he was gone most of that time.
He probably considered using you as long as it was "no strings", but your drunken response felt like a "string", and so he bolted like a little bitch because he was in it for his penis only.
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