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writes:My boyfriend and i are going through a hard time right now because he says the spark has gone..We've been together for 2 years now and we're great, we have the same sense of humor and have awesome chemistry but right now its just awkward..We are taking a break to see how life is without each other. When we get back what are some things i can do to get that "spark" back?Please help. I love this guy and the last thing i want is for things to be awkward.THANKS!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2007): You know, I agree with Smeedle..if you are meant to be together you will be. I'm in the same age group as you and was in a similar situation as recently as 4 days ago and I was trying and trying to convince my bf that we could work things out and I would find a solution to any problem that we had...and after a day or two of this he was still firm that he was not in love with me anymore and wanted to end the relationship. Sporadically he would agree to just take a break instead of a break-up n then go back to wanting a break-up. It was then that I realized that if the "feelings" are gone then there is no salvaging what you had, especially if he does not even want to try to! We live together but I was visiting my parents at the time for a few weeks. I decided to let it go and told myself that if we were truly meant to be together we would. You have to be strong and you have to know that even if things don't work out you will be able to get over it and move on. It might take time but you will do it. In my case after a few days of being without each other, he realized he still loved me and came back...even though the chances were very, very slim. I think you just need to give it time and I know it's difficult because we want the answers right now, we don't want a torturous wait, but sometimes you just have to do what needs to be done. Call on some friends and try distracting yourself while still letting him know what an integral part of your life he is. If it is meant to be, he will come back to you. But remember, either way everything will be fine.Take care of yourself and be strong. :)
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reader, smeedle  +, writes (2 September 2007):
 Let this man go and move on, he your relationship is clearly over and it is time for you to move on and let each other find other people, if you are meant to be together then you will be.
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