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writes: My b/f i think has a lot of sexual experience. We have gotten into a lot of arguments about various things not just trust and all that. He says he does not want to argue as much and its too stressful. He said if he wanted to mess around on me--he can do it at the drop of hat and i said it is that easy for you? He said with people he does not talk to anymore or he avoids because he knows if he wanted to--he can call them up and invite them over simply for sex. Then he said i should know by now this is not what he wants. That still actually kind of hurt--how it is that available to him and it even makes it harder for me to trust that a guy is able to turn this down when it is sooo available. I dont know many guys who would. He said me wondering who he talks to is not going to break us up--its the stupid arguments we have. I have so many conflicting emotions. I have such a hard time trusting a guy who is telling me he can cheat on me in an instant if he wanted to. A guy with that much ego would cheat anyway, wouldn't he? or is he just being honest about it and not threatening me? Honest about how anyone can cheat easily but they make the choice not to. I just feel so horrible right now. Help. Reply to this Question
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reader, camille  +, writes (1 June 2006):
 I'm sorry but if you keep going on about he's more likely to do it. So what if he could get it when he wants? So could you. Most people could. But he isn't and I think that's the point he's trying to make. You're not listening because you're taking it as an insult instead of hearing the message. He's trying to tell you that it's YOU he's with and that should be good enough. And you know what, it should. If it sin't, then maybe that's not the real issue and you're looking for things to go wrong. Be careful, you may end up pushing him towards it just so you can say "I told you so".
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2006): Agreed with the others. And hey - you're a female - if you really wanted you can get sex too.
If he ever says that to you again, you should say "me too" - see how he likes it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2006): I agree with Smeedle. You need to quit defending this guy's unthinking behaviours and the way he's treating you, hun. I question this guy's motives for planting 'seeds of self-doubt' in the mind of the very person he should love and cherish...mainly you. Think about that and see it 'for what it really is". You really are being foolish to accept this immature behaviour...Tell him to grow up and start setting some tougher boundries on the way loved one's treat you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIn his defense--i can just as easily do the same--not because they love me or dream of being with me--just for the night..for something physical.
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reader, smeedle +, writes (31 May 2006):
 Ditch the guy, he is leading you on, no way is sex available to anyone that easily unless he is a adonis and even then I doubt it.
He is just telling you all this stuff so you think you are lucky to have him, to let you know in his world there are a load of women just waiting for him to give the word and fall into bed with him, dream on!! he is playing you for a fool and sadly he is just no good.
Bin him and leave it at that, if he really does have all these women waiting for him, you are doing him a favour.
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