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writes:My boyfriend and I had an arguement 5 weeks ago and says it over. We've been together 2 and a half years and have fallen out before and have sorted things out. I can't work him out as he answers my calls sometimes and if I ask him to do jobs around the house he will come and do them. I don't know if he really means its over. If he really meant that then why would he answer my calls and do things for me?I really, really miss and love him and I've told him that but he's told me to move on. I can't do this as I think there's still hope.What do you think?
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reader, lucyhunny +, writes (9 August 2009):
She is right this time may have been the last time. Leave him be. And remember that old gem which you least want to hear when you have split up with someone. There is more out there.
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reader, katejessica  +, writes (9 August 2009):
By keeping in contact you are giving him what he wants.
Leave it. Accept it. Give him space.
Who knows, maybe he will miss you and you would have moved on!
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reader, twistedelm  +, writes (9 August 2009):
Sometimes its not easy and you've said you love him but when was the last time he said he loved you? And meant it? He may be coming over to your house to do jobs just to help you out and it might have nothing to do with your former relationship. But maybe he does want to be around you; just maybe hes waiting for you to make the next move--ever think of that? But if hes seeing someone else--already--you might have to work harder to get him back? When 2 people live together they might have arguments once n a while; when this happened to me the best part was the making up. Take Care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2009): Honey, there is no hope... He has made up his mind.
Being in love with someone and caring for someone are two different things.
He cares for you that is obvious, but no longer wants to continue a relationship.
I don't think you are listening to what he is saying and the only way for you to move on and be able to look at this from an objective point of view is to stop communicating with him completely.
Just because its over between you two does not mean that he has to be a jerk to you. and he is being kind right now. But eventually the calls and communication will become to much for him and you to bare and then you will risk loosing the friendship as well.
my advise is to back off... respect his decision.
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