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anonymous
writes:I am in a relationship with a guy from my office. I'm a self confessed workaholic and he is always complaining that I don't make enough time for him on the weekdays. However every alternate weekend, he goes to his parents house where he maintains little or no communication with me. A few of his other weekends are with trips with his guy friends, acting classes and trips to other relatives. In the end we barely get 1 weekend with each other. I don't think its fair of him to make me to be the bad person when he himself is sailing in the same boat. How should I approach this? What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, Denizen  +, writes (24 June 2016):
 You need to negotiate. Being a workaholic is not a good trait. You have a limited amount of time on this Earth and to sell so much of it to your company means you have little imagination about what else you might be doing with this precious time. OK so we all have to render unto Caesar what is Caesar's but there is a limit.
I can understand it if you feel that there is some altruistic motive for your work, but if you are just turning out widgets then as the saying goes, 'Get a life'.
If you are not prepared to give up time you can hardly expect your partner to.
So start by 'agreeing' that you need more time together and see what you can both work out. You are intelligent people. It is not beyond you.
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