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writes:im 19 year old guy, hes 24, we have been seeing each other for about 4 months now (not actually in a relationship way). he has just came out of a long term relationship (3 years) as well as his bit on the side leaving to go home (far away), well yeah we became friends and started going out, were both really interested in each other but we are currently having sex, going on dates, sleeping over each others house. recently i told him that it feels more than sex to me, he responded with i feel rotten about what you said the other day, i asked him why and he said because i don't feel anything more than lust and friendship. yeah well anyway i asked him i thought you told me you were really interested in me? or was that just lies? then he said to me i am interested in u but obviously my feelings have'nt developed as much as yours have.im really stuck with what to do? can someone give me a honest answer in this situation and not just leave him and find better! because he is the best damn thing thats happened to me, he makes me feel happy whenever im around him.what would you do in this situation? xx thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, Aunty Tommy +, writes (7 June 2009):
 Rome wasn't built in a day, and love is no different. Your friendship is blossoming and obviously you two are very close.
Your still young and to you things will always seem as going to slow. Just put the breaks on your feelings for the moment and cherish the time you are spending together now. Given time, his feelings will develop.
He's just come out of a Long Term Relationship and this will automatically make his feelings slower to grow as the hurt from the split isn't always easy to take. Give him time and be there for him. Don't rush anything otherwise you could just push him away which is something I'm sure you dont want
Take care and hope my advice helps. Would love to receive updates on your progress
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reader, QuirkLady  +, writes (6 June 2009):
 Sounds like you have a friends with benefits relationship. Nothing wrong with that if that's what you want, but it seems like you want more and he doesn't.If I was OK with being in a FWB, I would stay...but if I really wanted more I would leave because I wouldn't want my heart broken. At least he was honest with you.Good luck.
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