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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hi my names bebe and Im involved with a married man.He is my next door neighbour and Im very good friends with his wife.At first its was just a bit of fun but now we've fallen in love with each other.He keeps saying that hes going to leave his wife for me and run away with me and marry me but i know its not true.what do i do i need help?
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (22 May 2007):
 Since you know it is not true, then what to do is obvious.
Stop seeing him, and find someone that you can have a real relationship with. He is the adult in this, you are still a minor, and what you too are doing could be illegal in your area. Stop seeing him. I think you already knew that.
You may be feeling love, but he is an adult and a married man, that knows how to makes girls think he loves her too. He has NO reason to leave his wife. His life would be in shabbles if he ever did, and he might go to jail if your age was made public. My guess is that you are just a great bar story for his friends to hear about how young a girl he is nailing on the side. I hope you never did any pics or vids with him...your age makes it kiddie porn.
-FBK
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reader, kenny +, writes (21 May 2007):
 I think this guy is stringing you along, and i would leave him alone. Invariably married guys never leave their wives, so ultimately you become the mistress, or bit on the side only seeing him when he can sneak away. He will fill you with false promises like i will leave her and run away with you soon, then one month goes by, two months, half a year. do you really need all the agrevation of what seeing a married man brings. Find someone single with no emotional attachments, there are plenty out there.
Good luck x
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reader, nologo  +, writes (21 May 2007):
 First, I will not impose my own views on fornication.
Second, I think that you initiated this relationship.
Third, I do NOT believe that he will leave his wife for you.
"At first its was just a bit of fun but now we've fallen in love with each other".- This is how YOU understand it.
"He keeps saying that hes going to leave his wife for me and run away with me and marry me". - These are his lies.
Coming back to your question: "what do i do i need help?"
Slowly but firmly start moving out of this relationship.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (21 May 2007):
 Bebe have you written in about this neighbor recently? It sure sounds familiar. Anyway, first he isn't going to leave his wife and second he just using you, it's not love. What you need to do is step away and leave him alone. There is obviously something wrong with the guy to begin with. Men will say anything to seduce a sweet young thing like yourself. Please stay away from him and stay busy with your friends. You'll be surprised how fast you will get over the guy. If he starts bugging you, tell your parents.
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