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writes:Im kind of seeing this man whos 14 years older than me, he asked me out and we got drunk and had intercourse, the next day he told me that he wanted to be honest with me, that he has a girlfriend and said he would brake up with her soon, but he needs time, I told him that I didnt want to be in that situation, and he made me not brake us up, so now he extended the time, and wants to brake up with her after the holidays, meanwhile, he is tryine to make me pregnant, talks about marrying someday, talks about having 2 boys and a girl, Im glad Im not pregnant, I got my period, because I cant make another mistake, I already have a 9 month old son, but his girlfreind has a 4 year old son and I feel bad for her, I shouldnt be doing this, but he promised me that he wasnt having sex with her, but he is cheating on her with me, why wouldnt he lie to me too?..I always ask myself them questions,
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2007): He's destructive, and your gut is telling you this is wrong for a reason...because it is!
Leave this loser, as hard as that will be, and find someone who moves slower, isn't already attached, and who is honest with you.
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reader, tiger74 +, writes (13 December 2007):
The guy is a loser and using you for sex, plain and simple. You need to get away from him as fast as you can and find someone who will be with you because of you. You have a child already and you can't be in a situation where you are having a second child with some guy who isn't even there for you. LEAVE HIM NOW. He will find some other woman to sleep with and he'll be her problem.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2007): From what i am reading i advice u to be away from this man cause he is a big liar and thats for sure i dont want you to make a second mistake . you must think that way first this man is 35 years old and your 21 its a problem even some proverbs say in love theres no age and such things , if u continue in a relation like this u will face in the future age problems for first sight , if u think logically this man is cheating on his girlfriend that stand by his side for 7 years and want to leave her with young baby after all this time so i think if u agree with him u will be next victim ;) try to find someone in your age who is availble with no kids and say that u want someone that take care about the baby that u already have and later u will think of having other kids this way u will see if he will take u just for having sex and fun or for real love ;) GOOD LUCK in your life THINK AND GROW UP RICH from our experiences in life bubye .
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reader, duskyrowe  +, writes (12 December 2007):
 If this guy tells you he is not having sex with his gf, chances are he is lying through his back teeth. This is the oldest trick in the book, ie my gf doesn't understand me and we don't have sex either. This creep is having his cake and eating it my dear. So kick this loser to the kerb, as for having a child with him NO NO NO. Chances are he will leave you holding the baby once he gets bored of playing happy families with you, as he is doing it already with this poor woman. Find a guy who is available and is ready to commit to you 100%. Good luck Sweety. Dusky xx
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reader, rockelle +, writes (12 December 2007):
 From what I am reading the reason you are asking yourself those questions is because you feel guilty about carrying on a relationship with someone who is already taken. If I were you I would not count on him leaving her after the holidays a lot of men make that promise and never actually follow through. Even if he did leave her that will only be the beginning of all the confusion that you are setting yourself up for by getting involved with him. Assuming that he is the father of her child, she will not be out of the picture, and after she finds out she is going to be hurt and angry and it is going to be difficult to start a new relationship off on such a bad note.
You mentioned that he is trying to get you pregnant so I assume that you have been having unsafe sex with him. That is the most disturbing piece of information that I read in your post. This man could have a disease, or maybe even AIDS. You have a baby to think about, a baby that needs you. You should think about your child before participating in risky behavior like that. Because God forbid you contract a disease from him, who will care for your child? Surely, not him.
Before considering getting involved with him think about what qualities you want in your lover. From what I can see the only qualities that he has shown are undesirable ones like being dishonest,unfaithful, selfish. So consider yourself lucky that you are not his girlfriend and mother of his child. Move on, take care of yourself and your baby and someone better will come along. I am sure you already know but please use protection especially with him.
I probably just told you things you already know but I hope it makes you think, and I hope that helped a little bit. Good luck with everything, and never refer to your child as a mistake.
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