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writes:Hello aunts and unclesreally need some advice.here goes.....I have been seeing my boyfriend for a month now BUT he was my second boyfriend over 20 years ago, so we know each other extremely well. Back then he was too nice for me, I wanted a more of a bad boy so to speak, so we remained friends....any way getting back to the present, we are getting on fantastically, we hate being apart, and spend most days together. I have fallen so in love with him I feel like I am about to burst. He knows I love him as I told him at the weekend when I stayed at his, he just kissed me and held me for ages. \( I told him I didn't want him to say it to me unless he meant it, so when his ready if his ready ill wait..........soooo today he text me that his really glad that we are back together and that he REALLY likes me.....so guys please help me here, do you think he loves me too but is just afraid to say it?........thank you in advance :D
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHHAHAH ok thank you . we will be moving at a nice casual pace, we have no reason to rush. it was just a question to understand from a male perspective! however if I just followed my instincts I would have known the answer to my question from the signals I am getting. Which evidently was correct.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAnon.... We Can And Do...We have been friends for over 20 years and know each other pretty well to know that what we say is what we ACTUALLY mean.
Eyeswideopen we will :) thank you xx
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (12 June 2013):
 Well there you go, much ado about nothing! Enjoy yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionjust an update.....he Loves me too :D !!! he was just nervous to say it in case I thought it was because I said it lol, happy days .
thanks everyone for your thoughts. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOh no no no,,, I wouldn't dream of going all heads ablazing now, I said what I wanted to say because I meant it. I also said to him I really don't want him to say it back until he feels he wants to IF he ever wants to, thee is no rush, I just wanted a guys view on it as the saying goes men are from mars women are from venus lol
thank you :D
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2013): "so guys please help me here, do you think he loves me too but is just afraid to say it?"
Nope, why would he be afraid to say it when you already have? He would have nothing to lose if he did.
Plus he did the classic 'kiss and hold' deflection when you said it. He would have said it back if he loved you OP, but he doesn't so he kissed you and held you instead, I've done that lots of times because it's stops the usual "do you love me too?" question because it's pretty clear he's not there yet if his response to you saying the big three was to say nothing.
His text then was very true, he likes you OP but nothing more. It's only been a month OP, he may get there but he's just not there yet. So ease back on the love talk for a little while and give it more time, he'll tell you when he is if he is. But 4 weeks is nothing, be careful not to go too fast. Go with the flow and let things take their natural course. You've already said it to him, now just keep going and wait and see what happens. It's too soon to need him to be in love with you too, so wait until you reach that point before you ask again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2013): I think that he REALLY likes you. He is taking his time and 'love' isn't there yet. But, it will come. I would take a long time to say I love someone, months, but I would REALLY REALLY like them leading up to feeling the 'love'.
I have a friend whose bf of two years has STILL not said it, but she knows he loves her. Relax, ...enjoy the journey and don't worry about it.
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