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*oveandlust
writes:i was with this guy for just over 2years and things were fine between us but last september he met somebody else whos only just 16 and hes almost 21, and he sais he loves her but all hes doing is asking to meet me and keeping on talkin to me and saying hes still got feelings for me and he cant stop thinking about me...i dont know what to do or if i should believe him or not..i just dont no what to think..if he was in love with this new girl why is he contacting me and saying all these things???please help! x Reply to this Question
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reader, loveandlust +, writes (13 March 2007):
loveandlust is verified as being by the original poster of the question thank you for all your advice i have taken it all on board....may i please have some males point of view as well please!thank you x
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reader, Lemonpixie  +, writes (12 March 2007):
 i agree with cd206. It definitely sounds like he has you waiting in the wings while having his fun with someone else...and if things go sour well there you are. And it will continue to happen... I've seen many friends in this situation and been in the same kind of thing myself... The best advice i could give is cut off all contact with him. Don't tell him you are though. Just stop calling him, stop answering his calls... If you run into him be polite but say you have to be somewhere else. He's playing the both of you... and any guy who is dating a girl that young has some maturity issues anyway. You've broken up, it didnt work out... find yourself a new man you deserve so much more.
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reader, cd206 +, writes (12 March 2007):
 This may sound harsh but it sounds to me like he wants you as his insurance policy in case things go wrong with his new girlfriend. You're better than that so don't let it happen.
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reader, dragonette  +, writes (12 March 2007):
 While reading all the questions on this site I noticed a tendency where people who break up with someone want to keep in touch with their ex just so they will have someone to go back to if the current relationship doesn't work out.
If your ex just wanted to keep in touch with you for friendship, he wouldn't say things like "I still feel for you and can't stop thinking about you".
I suggest you go about your life and pay no heed to his remarks.
If I were in your shoes I might cut myself off from him to spare myself emotional strain, but if what he's doing doesn't bother you, then do however you feel like =)
Good luck with everything!
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reader, calli10601 +, writes (12 March 2007):
 Sounds to me like he doesn't know what he wants. He needs to figure himself out before he tries to settle down and have a relationship with someone. Look at it this way, how can he be there for someone else if he doesn't know what he even wants in life? Let him do some soul searching. Sometimes all you need is a little crash and burn to realize what it is you want in your life.
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