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writes:My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year now, but lately he has been struggling with being in a relationship. Almost all of his close friends are single and I know he's getting crap from them. We're having a less contact and I'm giving him more 'boys nights out' and other things. He says he still loves me and wants to make this work, it's just hard at the moment.Other than backing off in terms of texting/calling and more time with his mates, how can i support him during this time?Please no comments about dumping him, he loves me and he tells me he does, he's just young and under pressure from his friends.
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reader, Welsh Uncle Dave  +, writes (22 November 2010):
I think it's very important to keep a balance in a relationship.
A relationship shouldn't just be the two of you all the time, but it also shouldn't be out with friends all the time.
There is nothing wrong with letting him hang out with friends as long as you get time with your friends together with quality time alone.
Try and find a balance where you have similar amount of time together during the week as you do with friends, but do not set rules or you will push him away.
Aunt Honesty is right when she talks about the jealousy issue. You're young, you're all relatively new to this and until the friends get partners, they won't understand.
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reader, Dady's little girl  +, writes (22 November 2010):
That is exactly what happened for me before 4 months
i got so shoked
but all u have to do is just let him do what he wants to , and dont discuss the subject with him as i did it will cuz fights and bad things to ur relationship , just go one step back dont talk to him the same way u used to dont text him i mean be absent from his life for few weeks , completley absent, im pretty sure that he will feel alone and miss the old u and relize that he is so wrong with what he does, so he will get back to u and do all he can do to keep ur relationship, take my advice i got in that situation b4.. sorry 4 my poor english
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (22 November 2010):
 Well there is no real way that you can support him, you are both young and it is completely normal for each of you to be going out seperatley with your friends, it breaks things up and you are still independant.
Make him see that his friends are probably just jelous that he has a girlfriend when they dont, therefore they are going to use reverse phycology and take a hand out of him for it, just tell him to laugh it off. When you do spend time together just make sure that you tell him how happy you are and make each other happy.
Also you go out with your friends as well as this breaks it even and it gives you something to do. But overall dont worry about it, he loves you and am sure he knows you are therefore him as well as his friends are. Goodluck.
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