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writes: About 4 months i ago my ex and i break up cuz he didnt want a gf or a relationship anymore and it really destoryed me cuz he was my best friend since 8th grade and we are both in our 20's and we dated for 3 months. Anyways i just started dating this new guy who i have been friends with since 12th grade. He is 19 will be 20 in june im 21 will be 22 in december. Well i having a really heard time letting myself go and i dont mean sexually cuz both him and i are virgins and he has no interest in having sex at all at this time and im fine with that cuz we are both scared of having sex. Anyways the other day he told me that he loves me and it freaked me out cuz i have been told that before and the guy ended up breaking my heart. I have been cut and brusied torn in two and all together burned to no end from guys so i never know when to believe a guy. I mean this guy is extremely nice and really sweet. Last nite we were on the phone and the first words that he says to me when i pick up the phone is "i have been thinking of you all day and i have been wanting to talk to you" and he also said "i couldnt get you out of my head" i mean i have never had any guys expecially ex's say that to me and i told my bf that i feel special and he said that i am special. He's just so sweet. So my question is how do i put my guards down? I really like this guy and just everything he says to me is just so heart warming. Any advice?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2007): If he truly believe in you, then what needs to be done for you to let your guard down is experience through effort and time on both fronts. This isn't something you can do instantly. You can't force yourself to become something your heart does not want to do right now. To break down those barriers, your heart have to trust him and doubt him less. On his end, only he can show you how that can be done, but know that it is also on your end that you must not try to pick on every little negative thing he does. EVERYONE has negative things. It just means how well you can balance that reasoning.
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