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male
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I am 31 years old gay, I met a guy on a dating gay app 2 weeks ago, the guy is 27 , I am not active on these kind of apps and I keep deleting my profile, but sometimes I find myself online.When I met the guy both of us were after some fun ! but once we met I really liked him and he said the same, we talked about a lot of things and we had a great night , when he left he texted me saying that I liked you a lot and I want to see you again and again, next day we kept texting each others , he invited me for dinner, it was nice but we didn’t talk much, maybe because we don’t know each other’s or we have nothing on common, overall it was not bad and he promised me to take me to a nicer restaurants and to hang out more with me etc. but I didn’t see him since that night, In total I saw him twice, I keep texting him but he gives short replies and he never starts a conversation, its always me, in total I texted him 5 times and his replies were very short and few times he doesn’t reply, in my last text I asked to hang out with me or to do something on the weekend and he agreed , but on that night, he completely ignored me and didn’t pick my calls. I was really mad on him, as I canceled all my plans and prepared myself to meet him but he didn’t show up. I sent a text saying (thanks for wasting my time, you can simply say I am not interested) I deleted his number and started to forget that I met someone nice , next day he apologized and said sorry, I was busy and I didn’t have time to write you , I really like you, you are decent , nice and blah blah blah. ok granted, but don’t you have less than minute to tell me? I told him I am done, don’t write me again, but he kept coming back no, i am really sorry, etc. since that day which was one week ago, he keeps texting me saying simple stuff , such as ,Hello , how are you and the conversation does not go any further and whenever I ask to see him , he ignores saying that he is busy and sometimes he doesn’t reply ! I am done, I don’t want this? but I don’t want to rush things! maybe he is busy? maybe he is seeing others ? I can’t scan his mind What does that mean? Why he talks to me, if he doesn’t want to see me? Why he says that he likes me but does not want to see me?Is he busy? He can’t have 2 hours to do so? I don’t get it? should I block him or wait a little?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2016): Hi 'anonymous',
I have to agree with Tisha-l. This guy is not interested in pursuing a relationship with you.
If that were the case, he would 'make' the time to do so -- in all likelihood he's either in a relationship and you're his bit on the side...or he's emotionally unavailable at some level.
Also, I suspect he's probably 'dating' a lot and meeting lots of nice guys such as yourself.
Save yourself the aggro and block him. In the long run, you'll be doing yourself a favour. Trust your instincts, if it doesn't feel right or if there's something 'off', then probably that really is the case with this guy.
Good luck!
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (4 April 2016):
 I would stop trying to figure out why he’s doing what he’s doing and just block him. You may have enjoyed one date, the second didn’t sound that great and since then he’s been very scarce and hard to reach. He’s not worth the investment of time and interest you are spending on him.
I would advise blocking him and ignoring him if he does manage to get a message through. I expect he’s active on the dating sites so you may encounter him again, just learn to avoid and ignore him.
Good luck, and I hope you find the right guy!
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