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writes:Hi I've met a really nice guy who I've been seeing for the past two months. He has said he dosnt want to get into anything serious but we have spent alot of time together and my feelings for him are strong.He has said he is starting to fall for me as well but thinks we shouldnt see each other as much because of this.Im really not sure what is going on with us and am scared i am going to get hurt if this carries on and dosnt end up going anywhere. Reply to this Question
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reader, AngelofLove +, writes (23 April 2007):
 I would be very careful with spending time with this guy. He may not be ready for a relationship, due to be hurt in the past, scared of commitment or just happy being on his own. Either way, the important thing here is that he is not ready.
He must care about you as he has been honest to say that he does not want to get serious. Some can lead you on, at least he hasn't.
If your feelings for him are stronger than his, take things very slow and to not have your hopes up.
This guy has his own reasons for feeling this way and there is nothing you can do to change it. Only he will know when he is ready.
When you really fall for someone, seeing them less often, does not really make emotions go away or avoid getting hurt. In fact, it can at times intensify feelings. As every time you see him, you had time to miss him and all feelings are revived.
If you do not see him for a week, do you find yourself thinking, "Can't wait to see him on Friday!"?
It is all or nothing with matters of the heart. You either date someone or you don't at all. No half measures.
Two months is not a long time to get to know someone or to find out if you are compatible.
Hope things work out for the best
Angel of Love
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2007): i found that with the guy im dating at hte moment, id just recently come out of a serious relationship,so the last thing i wanted was anything serious fpr a while,
we started dating,spendin ALOT of time together (we spent more time together ,and enjoyed each others company,more in 2 weeks than i did the whol time i was with my ex.)
it was a little scary at first when i started to get really strong feelings for him,and i said the same as your partner,to see less of each other and take things more slowly,the only thing is .absence soesnt always make the heart fonder, it sometimes cause the mind to wander....ie,if you cant be around some one you really care about/love,because you feel so strongly about them ,the mind will begin to "get over them".
you should just both sit down, talk about it and say how you both really feel about each other.if its the same from both sides.then whats wrong with it all happening so fast,it just gives you more time to enjoy each others company and love together!?
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