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writes:So my guy best friend admitted how he truely felt about me on new years eve. He said that he loved me.Once that was out there it all came pouring out, like everything he loved about me. I love him to pieces but as a friend. Since then none have us mentioned it ane this left me absolutely mind boggled.So i spoke to him to about it tonight. I asked if he remembered, he said yes (because he was drunk at the time) So i then asked where it had all came from? He said he liked me and just had a massive soft spot for me and that he couldn't help it.That was okay, i admitted that i do too have a soft spot for him and we both agreed that even thinking about being anything but friends was out of the question.Yet neither of us wanted anything to change. But what does that mean for us now? What is a soft spot?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2013): OP he has a different kind of soft spot for you, one which goes hard in the right circumstances.
OP he admitted he loves you as more than a friend. But basically he's been friendzoned so he's reluctantly accepting the friendship thing.
In all honesty OP these things usually don't work out well, almost actually. It'll be too painful to see you with a boyfriend or dating for example, he may even constantly warn you against going with guys or have bad things to say about the guys you date, a whole host of issues arise from this but it all boils down to one thing, you're old enough to know and have experienced the deep pain of being completely mad about someone you can't have. Well that's what he's going through.
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reader, N91 +, writes (5 January 2013):
 He wants to be more than friends, simple as that.
He told you that he loves you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2013): what he's trying to say is that when it comes to you, he can't help but have feelings for you. you're his weakness. in other words, he really cares a lot about you.
i would be surprised if he only legitimately wants to be friends. he may have just said that to save face. seems to me that he wants more than just a friendship. good luck.
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reader, kenny +, writes (5 January 2013):
 Sometimes when you are tipsy, or had a few drinks you are more loosened up and alot of truth comes out. He admitted he likes you, and you said you like him also, so why is more than friends out of the question. Having a soft spot for someone is liking them more than friends, fancying them, if i had a soft spot for a girl then i would want to date her.
Good luck
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