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writes:My man friend and i have been dating about 2years and 9 months minus 2 months when we were broken up. We are now back together even though his family does not know it. The problem i have now is the following: he had a brother that was married. However, he died back in the late 60's; he left a widow and 2 children. She remarried but does not live in the same state as her husband and they have what might be called a business relationship marriage. They are wealthy but live apart. They were going to get a divorce but there were so many financial affairs that it would take a very long time to work it all out. This woman which is the sister-in-law to my bf, said the day that her husband died, that she wanted this man that i am dating now. His wife was still living at this time and it upset her when she heard this. The excuse that my bf gave his wife was that his sister-in-law was in shock when she said this. She has not had that much to do with my bf in the past few years. When we broke up news traveled fast and since then she has put it in high gear once again appearing to want my bf. Her son which is in his late thirties called my bf and wants him to go hiking with him that last of oct and they will be staying at the home of this sister-in-law and i think that the son will bring his wife and of course this will make it a couples weekend. My bf was going to another part of the same state that this sister-in-law lives in this past weekend and she called once on his cell phone and once on his home phone asking him to come by her home and have lunch with her either on his way up to his destination or on his way back home. She also does not know that we are back together and she thinks that he is free and available. her son mentioned to my bf last week that he heard that we had broken up. Not wanting anyone to know that we are back together, my bf's response to her son was "bad news traveles fast". What do you all think that i should do about this? I am not invited to go along on this trip. My bf told me that he absolutely has 0 interest in her or a relationship with her and it takes two to tango. I told him that things like this start off innocent and can lead to other things. Anyway, on the surface it looks as if she is trying to get my bf especially since she thinks he is available. Please tell me someone how i should handle this. I would be willing to go and stay with my bf in a hotel but i will be honest and say that i don't want him to go by his self and stay in her home. I would like a lot of suggestions to this problem. Please help me and thanks a million.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2007): I think perhaps he likes her more than you think. Why wouldn't he tell her you're together? That would definately tell her to back off because he's in a relationship.
I do suggest to go stay in a hotel with him. He may have 0 interest in her, but that doesn't explain why she doesn't know you're together?
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reader, Tommy7 +, writes (1 October 2007):
I think you boyfriend has more interest in her than you are saying.
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reader, rockelle +, writes (1 October 2007):
 Why are you keeping the relationship a secret? Wouldn't it be easier for your bf to just tell her he is in a relationship and he is not interested?
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