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female
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30-35,
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writes:We've been married for 1 and a half years. We're both young, very young. In the beginning he always pursued me and I was very cold. After we got married, though, things changed. He was still more loving and warm than me, just not as much as previously. Little by little the tables have turned. Now I am the one who feels rejected, and just recently he told me he doesn't love me anymore. We are separated for now. I know he still loves me, he tells me from time to time but then he turns around and tells me ha has no feelings for me anymore. You need to understand that things were fine (well fine as in he had never told me that he didn't love me) just two weeks ago. I can't seem to understand what's going on in his head. I'm afraid for myself because I have no idea who I am. I was only 17 when I met him and my life has completely revolved around this relationship for three years. Without it, I'm lost. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2009): You say you never showed your man as much affection as he showed you... I did this for someone once and ended up realising that I always put them first... until I realised that my girl always put herself first too.
This made me turn and do what I wanted to do, to put my feelings before her, and when she noticed, she wasn't happy.
I'm saying this because unless you have a balance of respect, love and affection, you will struggle to maintain a relationship for more than a couple of years... basically until the adrenaline runs out and it's same-old same-old.
Hope this makes sense, good luck!
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