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female
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36-40,
*anomey
writes:My boyfriend I were together for a year, it was true love. About 2 weeks ago he told me he could see himself spending the rest of his life with me, but he needs to be single first. We've been broken up for 2 weeks, talk everyday, are still intimate, and most importantly, still have this intense bond. We are eachother's best friend, we understand eachother on a level no one can compare to. He has told me he is confused, and thinks he might not find someone even comparable to what we had.. so hes always calling, still says "I love you", still wants to cuddle. I am so in love. He is my soul mate. What do I do?
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx  +, writes (5 March 2007):
 This must be very hard for you, as I can see that you believe you two are supposed to end up together. However, I have problems seeing how he is working out these confusions when he's still seeing you and sleeping with you? When someone needs time to work things out, that usually means time alone to think, not the best of both worlds: a girlfriend when they feel like it but the single life the rest of the time!
I don't mean to say he's doing this for these reasons but I think you need to be strong with him. You need to tell him, if he's confused, to go away and leave you alone until he has worked out what he wants from life and from the relationship. If he decides he wants you, you have to tell him it's all or nothing: don't be used by him and messed around.
If he decides he doesn't want to come back, at least you know and are not being messed around. I know you say you're soul mates but if he's not prepared to show you the honesty and respect you've shown him, where can this go, really?
I hope he comes to his senses and realises he wants you back, for both your sakes. But if he doesn't, be strong. Let him know he can't mess you around and you want an answer, however long it takes him.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2007): i think that once he realizes how good you were, he will come back to you. maybe he just needed time to think such a huge thing over. trust me, if he is your soulmate, you will be together. dont let him get away
goodluck to both of you3
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