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writes:My bf says he has never been able to ever cum when having sex with any girl that he has had sex with. He can however when he masturbates himself. He says he cant come during sex because he has masturbated so much. For him to cum he needs it to be REALLY hard and fast. I feel bad like im not a good enough gf because he cant cum when we have sex and i cant make him cum through masturbation either because my arm gets sooooo sore, he lasts so long and needs it really hard and fast and i cant do that. Any advice? Could there be another reason for why he cant cum during sex?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all the great advice. Ive been thinking about it a bit more and I remembered that he cant even make himself cum through masturabtion in front of me. In fact, he said he has never ever cumed in front of a girl, even when he masturbates himself. He can cum through masturbation when it is jsut himself though. So this is leading me to think maybe it is more of a nervous thing or something?
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reader, AScott  +, writes (10 August 2009):
I'm not sure whether than sounds physically possible. Try and consult some medical journals on this because it might be that your bloke is just assuming that the masturbation is the problem. A lot of men can't ejaculate when wearing a condom that may be the problem.It might just be that he's nervous when in bed with you. That is one of the big reasons why men cannot orgasm during sex. Alcohol and drug abuse also makes it difficult to come when having sex. I know that when I'm drunk, it's almost impossible! If he can't orgasm whilst having sex, it is a major problem for when it comes round to him wanting to conceive children. If he masturbates so much I doubt that he can stop just cold turkey. Why don't you try and in corporate his masturbation into your sex routine, this might ease his tension. Plus you will feel a part of his orgasm experience.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2009): Tell him to lay off masturbating for a while, and by a while I mean a month or so at least. His penis is probably desensitized from jerking off so much. Then try sex with him again. Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2009): I would perchance to say that this is simply a matter of self control on his part. If I were you, I would sit him down, and ask him if he wants to achieve it. If he does, then he must commit quite simply, to NOT MASTURBATING. Keep in mind, it will take him a bit to get adjusted, so if I were you, I would wait 2 weeks before you try again. He gets off on doinkin with himself lol so take that away, he needs to turn to something else. It's as easy as that. ^^
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