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writes:I've been seeing this guy for about 5 months now but not consistently, he travels a lot for his job which makes it difficult for us to have anything serious. Last month he started taking me out more he even took me out two Fridays in a row, but than he pulled back and I haven't seen him in two weeks. We keep in contact but it just seems like when we start to spend more time together and we start getting closer he pulls away. He always says I don't have the time for a girlfriend yada yada yada, I can't give you want you want or deserve etc etc. But than he will take me out, and when we do hangout and I happen to get a phone call or text he will get jealous and upset saying obviously I have something going on with this other guy blah blah blah. He tells me I'm the only girl he is seeing and if he were to sleep with someone else he would tell me, and I believe him because he is pretty upfront but at the sametime I'm not sure, maybe he doesn't want to hurt my feelings?? He text me last weekend on Sunday this "I miss my baby girl, did you get f*cked good last night?" I in return text him something very sarcastic. But this all confuses me, why does he get so jealous and upset and send texts like that?! He always says he can't have a girlfriend because he travels so much....but than calls me to take me out, we get closer than he pulls back...I'm so confused :(
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reader, ghoku +, writes (18 March 2011):
He's a no keeper. Just move on with someone who is willing to have a real relationship with. someone who will give you assurance and will be with you through thick and thin. this guy wants to get every thing from you but does not want to share something with you. If you stay with him you wont be satisfied at all, you'll gonna end up being confused all the time.
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (18 March 2011):
 Sorry Hon, this sounds like a waste of time relationship. He wants to string you along, keep you keen but wants to do whatever he likes to do.. without you!
Its not a case of he cant have a girlfriend, he doesnt want one because they 'cramp his style'.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2011): I see... I assume hes charming unless you would already leave him just because hes not treating you right.This story does sound familiar to me for some reasons.Actually I met a guy just like him once. He travels a lot due to work thing and He said he just doesnt see how this relationship is gonna work out well. But at the same time he used to take me out for dinner etc almost every chance he got when hes in town. And said like 'Youre special and I feel sincere attraction blah blah. He and I were on and off over and over. Sometimes he went off to abroad and didnt even call, text, IM me for weeks, so I started to think this is over, then again, he called me up and didnt even bother to explain anything and was acting like as if theres nothing wrong, which is technically right because I wasnt his gf, officially. I wanted clarify things but didnt get a chance because he travels too much and everytime we go out he and I end up being drunk and tired. We go dancing and some place loud where you dont really have to talk. It had been like this for months. However, hindsight, I think we were on only if the mood suits him. And everytime I start to talk about serious stuff like what I am to you, he changed subjects or just said Dunno...blah blah. I now recall he was actually avoiding having serious conversation.He used to get upset and jealous when he 'thought' I was seeing other people. And I found it very unfair because he didnt give me any reason to stay while he was asking me to be faithful. Yet he was hanging out with other girls at times when he went off to other states or countries. And there was a funny thing that he actually said he loves me once and then next morning he said like hey it came out wrong, I didnt mean romantic love. A bit while after then, I just left him. It didnt exactly go smoothly because at that time I definitely got hurt. My ego, pride, and everything got hurt emotionally. All I wanna say is that its up to you. He would be sweet other than that he doesnt want to get tied up. If you can compromise and just want to enjoy the moments thats fine. But you should stop if you want more. He wouldnt give you what you want.
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