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*LMP224
writes:Hey I am 16, and the guy that thinks im totally amazing; we really like eachother and sorta go out. He is 19. In 5 months he will be 20. He says that at his age a relationship needs to have sex. Im totally not ready for sex. I have told him my view on this and he always says "sweatie we've talked about this" How do i get him to change his mind about sex? I just want to be with him. He wants to be with me too but only if we take the next step... I dont want to lose my virginity to him until im 18. If he cant wait then I dont know what to do, but I want to make him change his mind. How can I make him just be with me without the sex?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2009): Stick to your guns, make it absolutely clear you wont have sex til you're 18. If he really cares about you then he'll hang around, if he leaves then good riddance, you deserve better.
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reader, SLMP224 +, writes (10 August 2009):
SLMP224 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks I used a lot of you advice and most of it worked he is willing to wait but eventually wants to talk about it aging and if he brings it up aging im geting rid of him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2009): DON'T!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2009): If anything/situation makes you go against your choices, beliefs, or wants, cut it short.
"Need to have sex?" No mam, he WANTS to have sex. If he feels that he needs it, then he should be someone that has the same feelings as he. Don't sell yourself short simply to appease him. You, your womanhood, & self-esteem are all very valuable. When the time is right for you. YOU will know and be comfortable in your choice. Kick that "can't wait for it man" to the curb.. GL
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2009): Honestly, I would say he has a valid point. Also, I am a girl, not a guy. What is wrong here is that you guys just aren't matched sexually. It would be fine if you were both virgins, but since he is used to having sex he will want it. Another thing, don't set an age limit for sex. It is about being ready you will know when you are ready, it will just feel right. Don't let anyone pressure you into having sex, you WILL regret it if you aren't ready. I would say you should get rid of him. He is a guy- if he wants sex he will get it elsewhere. This is the problem with dating older guys.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2009): well if he really like u like he says he does he will wait for u until ur ready. guys will do and say anything to get some fresh. trust me iv been throught all of that
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reader, Elliiott  +, writes (9 August 2009):
 He shouldn't be forcing you to have sex, There is NO age limit to sex, When two people have sexual intercourse, The're both ready for what might happen, If you're not ready and want to have sex after 18+, Don't have sex.
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