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writes: A man i know said " where have you been hiding? " , because he hadnt seen me for a long time.I saw him when i was out with my new boyfriend in a bar.This man asked me if he was my boyfriend,as it was the first time he had seen me with him,and i said he was.He then said " When you've finished with him, i'll take you out ".Do you think he was joking or do you think he meant it ?.It felt awkward when he said that and i just laughed when he said it.My boyfriend wasnt sat with me then as he had gone outside to smoke, as you're not allowed to smoke in bars in the UK. I might feel awkward if i see this man again.How should i act if i do see him and he speaks to me again?. I hope he didnt feel bad when i laughed.Do you think thats a normal reaction though,and do you think it's rude that he said that when he knows i am with someone?. Reply to this Question
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (17 February 2012):
 It's rude. The guy is a douche. If you ever end it with your new boyfriend, don't go out with this guy!!! That's a really stupid thing to say to someone in a relationship, completely disrespectful.
Congrats on your new relationship! Enjoy it, and forget about this other dude. He probably DID mean what he said, that he wants to take you out. But he is rude and really... just a douche. So no, going out with him shouldn't even cross your mind, the guy is full of himself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2012): i agree with bronze adonis 100 per cent. if he always behaves like that, it`s a matter of time before someone snots him. it should not matter to you what he thinks about you laughing. why is that so important to you?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2012): The way he works is appalling/disgraceful/disrespectful and any other bad word you can think of.
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reader, delightful84  +, writes (17 February 2012):
Of course he was rude, people get beaten up for things like that. I don`t even know why you are giving it any thought.
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reader, bronzed adonis +, writes (17 February 2012):
 Was he joking or did he mean it? Well seeing as he was disgusting enough to wait while your new fellow had gone outside to say that to you, I wouldnt care less, thats unless you hope he meant it. His behaviour warrants someone who needs teaching a lesson in respect, or even a good left hook.
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reader, thinkb4  +, writes (17 February 2012):
On the face of it, it was very disrespectful to the man you was with. Why does he assume you would go out with him anyway? Do you actually want to? If he felt bad when you laughed, it would`nt have been anywhere near as bad as your new man would have felt if he`d have heard it. The guy sounds arrogant.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2012): The guy was probably out at bars chasing women and may or may not even remember what he said to one particular woman. I wouldn't think anything of it and I doubt it meant anything personal.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2012): "Do you think he was joking or do you think he meant it ?.It felt awkward when he said that . . ."
Either way, a rude and tasteless remark, awkwardness quite appropriate reaction to inappropriate behavior. Doesn't matter how he "feels" that you laughed considering how he made you "feel."
Ignore him if you see him, if he approaches brush him off as politely as possible, though it may take a sledgehammer to get him to take the hint to get lost.
A creep who'd use a line like that has no respect for women, don't waste another second on him.
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