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writes: my partner sent some woman a text saying "i love you" on new years eve", when i confronted him he said "oh thats just a good friend of mine from uni, im just showing i care because its new years eve", should i read more into this? it would be out of character for him to cheat and the girl lives far away. do friends really tell each other they love them? He said if he wanted to be with someone else then he wouldnt be with me.
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reader, love2help +, writes (7 January 2007):
there are lots of xplanations for things like this. he could be too embarrassed to say it was to his mother!! anyway looking into it could make things worse. you should trust him. Tell him how you feel. if he says that it was truly a friend you should believe him. there are lots of males who tell female friends they love them. if that is the case, let him know that there are limits and that you are his partner. if he did lie to you then ask him about this other girl and try to set them up. that way maybe he will think that you don't mind and you will be able to stay friend. Because the worst thing that can happen is to shout and never talk to each other again.
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reader, Lilly223  +, writes (4 January 2007):
 Let's chalk this one up to 'poor judgement' on his part. Obviously he wasn't REALLY thinking about how you would feel when he told some other woman that he loved her... no matter how innocent it was. It would have been more appropriate for him to simply wish her a "Happy New Year"... she would have understood that he was thinking of her, and you wouldn't have felt threatened over what he text to her. But... that is not how it happened. My advice, let it go, explain to him how you feel, ask him to please stop doing that becuse it was hurtful to you, and carry on as you were. This sounds very innocent to me. And yes, friends do say they love each other.... there is a difference between romantic love and simply love... unfotunately there is only ONE word to cover both terms. I wouldn't read anything in to this.
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