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female
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anonymous
writes:I been dating a guy for the last week. Went on a first date last weekend that went very well then subsequently saw each other three times during the week. We had a really good time, made out, kissing, hugs but didn't sleep together, came close to it and I felt that he wanted to but wanted to wait. So, I assume through the week, great this feels good, we seem to be getting on and he he is attracted to me! We had some deep conversations and we seemed easy in each others company. So yesterday I text him to see how he's doing. His reply was that he's really enjoyed his time with me but feels he can't be more then friends with me. He said he's sorry if I felt he led me on. I replied, yes you did lead me on and I am disappointed. I did ask if he could pinpoint the problem, and he thinks the chemistry wasn't there and wasn't sure. I thought that weird as we shared some lovely times just kissing and couple times things got hot and heavy! I am confused and don't know why the change of heart? I don't feel I did anything wrong, and I can't be that bad at reading people? We met from an online date site so my only assumption was that he could have been chatting to others etc and perhaps wanted to perdue bring with others. Thank goodness we hadn't slept together as I would have felt worse! I just feel really pissed off with him still and feel confused!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2015): Agree 100% with Honeypie. Do not waste anymore time or energy on this. Just move on. Keep re-reading honeypies response anytime you start to think about this guy. Too many good guys out there. Don't waste another second on this one. You deserve better.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (15 February 2015):
 It's only been a week, I wouldn't WASTE any more emotions or worries about this fella.
My guess is he DIDN'T end it because of the "lack of chemistry" because if things got hot an heavy a couple times, there IS/was chemistry.
Maybe, he WAS seeing several ladies and one of THOSE gave it up faster or he had actually been seeing HER longer. OR he wasn't actually single. (amazing how many people who AREN'T single get on dating sites to troll for sex and attention).
The " I can't be more then friends" or "chemistry is missing" are cop outs - and DO NOT fall for it. Just cut him off. He isn't looking for "friendship" either.
Dating sites (and dating) can be hit or miss. This one... was a miss.
Don't TAKE it personal. It's not worth it. Just move on to the next and maybe? go a tad slower? You really don't know a guy after 1 week.
And really, IF he isn't "feeling" it would you want to go out with a guy who rather not BE on a date with you?
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