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writes:About 6 months ago I dated a guy who was a good friend of mine, but I didn't really like him very much. Eventually I ended up cheating on him and felt so bad about it that I immediately dumped him with no explanation other than "I'd rather just stay friends". Then about a month ago I started getting rushes of emotion for him. We began to hang out a lot more and a lot of people actually thought we were going out again. One day I was talking to him and I told him about the whole cheating on him thing. We had a serious talk about it and he told me he wanted to get back together in the very near future. I told him I wanted that too. The next day he told me that he was sorry for leading me on because he actually was kindof beginning to get into a relationship with someone else. That day I also hung out with him and my best friend (a girl). It was obvious that she liked him. I confronted it about him later that night and he admitted it. He told me, "I'm sorry but she told me she liked me first and it was a few days before you and I had our conversation. I can't just drop everything with her because you decided to come back into the picture."This is all incredibly hard especially because she's my BEST FRIEND and I can't hate her for it. I'm also aggravated that he told me he liked me even though he was already somewhat with my friend. As of now they aren't officially together but they might as well be. What should I do? And does he like me or not?
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reader, AsianXAnon +, writes (14 November 2007):
 I guess it is true what they say huh, "What goes around comes around" and "You don't know what you've got until it's gone." Sorry you had to learn it the hard way. And Danielepew could be wrong. They aren't together, he could still like for you were the one who broke it off. But then again that might be the very reason that he won't get back with you; as he has said. However it seems pretty obvious that he's going to go for the other girl. Time does not cater to anyone persons thoughts/actions/feelings. He's moving on and so should you. Maybe next time you'll use your head a little more and date someone you actually really like, not because you feel bad if u say no, or for other lame excuses. I am glad though that you realize that you can't be mad at anyone but yourself if they get together. Very mature of you!On the other had, she is your bestfriend, and there is rule in "GIRL CODE" that simply states that friends cannot go for other friends ex's... that is unless both parties are mutually fine with it, other then that it has been known that friendships die over this. You know what they say... Chicks before dicks. You'll always have your friends, bf/gf can fade away. Which would you rather have. Good luck with everything!
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (14 November 2007):
 I don't think he likes you. I think you should simply move on.
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