A
female
age
41-50,
*tlbabe65
writes:Ok so my boyfriend and I were together for 4 years and then about 3 weeks ago he broke up with me. He told me that I didnt support the things he wanted to do. He said all I want is marriage and kids. He said I tried to steal his ambition and that because I told him not to take a job he wanted that I was not on his side. He said all I ever did was say no to every idea he ever approached me with. I was shocked because never before had he ever told me he ws feeling this way. I explained to him that yes I want marriage and kids, but I am in college right now finishing my Bachelors and soon to start my Masters program. He said every time we ever went to a wedding or a friend of mine said she was pregant all of a sudden I was ready for all of that too. Of course we would go to weddings and baby showers and I would see all of my friends making moves in their lives that I wish I could be doing, but then about a week later I would snap out of it and focus again. He said that the night he broke up with me I should him my true colors and now he sees me in a different light. I have wrote him and spoke to him and told him that I do want the same goals as him and I am always in his corner but he does not believe me. he says he doesnt my words. He says he has to move forward and being with me will only hold him back. I have seen him twice since we broke up and we slept together both times. Both times he told me how much he loves me, how he is still in love with me and how beatiful I am. We never fought, we were such a great couple. I dont understand how someone can just walk away after 4 years like that??? Plus I have a 9 yr old son and my ex told me he couldnt see him anymore either....well two days ago I had a suspicion that I may be pregnant and I called him and let him know that we should do a pregnancy test. We did it together and it came out negative. The next day he sent me a message saying we should never see or talk to each other again! He said I tried to play him with the pregnancy and now he has to erase me from his life completely! But he tells my friends how much he loves me adn mises me but he cant be with me?? What do I? What is going on with him?
View related questions:
ambition, be pregnant, broke up, my ex, pregnancy test, wedding Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, Laura1318  +, writes (24 April 2008):
 He is having second thoughts or he has lost interest in this
relationship.
He is like an aircraft going into a tail spin.
He is becoming highly critical of you and this means that his love for you is at a very low ebb.
There is nothing much you can do except to call a time up.
He felt that you have become his stumbling block to his ambitions.
He blames you because he could not go far in his career.
When a person falls out of love, thats what they will say.
|
