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writes:heyi've been in a relationship , for five years,we had some issues but i tried doing my best everyday ,so the relation would go on .i did every thing he wants ,but i was never happy because i never got the feeling that he cares as much as i did ,, and then one day ,we had a stupid fight , and i asked him , do i make u happy ? he said ,no , then i said then you don't love me !!!! he didn't say anything ,he said i just think when you do something good it's not because your good but to show that you are ,,,, and he just sent me afterwards a message like where are you , and that's it, i didn't replay , i couldn't .i know that you go in and out of love , etc ,do you think that this is fair for me ,i don't know what to do when he calls , becuase he doesn't want to get back , and i'm hurt from him because he just waited all that time to say that, and even if he did want me back , which i doubt ,,should i accept ? for me i just wanna get over him !!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2011): "he said i just think when you do something good it's not because your good but to show that you are"
It sounds like something wasn't right in your relationship, that doesn't mean that neither of you cared or that you were wrong to try to do something good. But I would think about this and see if there was some truth in this.
It could be that he was resisting your attention, for whatever reason and that made you try harder. Maybe you felt that he was not completely committed and that came through in what you tried to do for him? It's hard to say for sure.
If he didn't love you and he wasn't happy it was his responsibility to let you know earlier so that you can decide what you want to do and stop putting so much effort in.
It was a 5 year relationship so it will take time to get over him. You deserve better. Take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2011): Have you ever seen Coming to America with Eddy Murphy? there is a scene where his new bride gets down on the floor and barks like a seal because he tells her to and thats the reason he knows he will never ever love her. Your boyfriend is right about what he said and just being truthful but I'm sure that is hard to hear.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2011): Dear How Do I Get Over Him,
If this guy really is your ex, it's time to remove him from your life. Take his number out of your phone, un-friend him on Facebook (if you have one), delete his email. Leave behind the things that make you think of him.
If he did want you back, I wouldn't say yes. Get in a healthy relationship. Find someone you love, who will love you every bit as much as you love them. Move on and be strong! If he didn't appreciate you and love you---he never deserved you.
Best of Luck,
Anonymous Agony Aunt
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