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writes:ok so im 15 and theres this guy ive been in loge with since december.. hes 16 and tells me he loves me too. first he had a girlfriend and we started talking and were like best friends. then i started to like him more than a friend. i just figured it would never work out so i didnt tell him. then one day he told me he had stronger feelings for me( while he was dating his girlfriend, amy) so him and amy were together but he kept asking me to kiss him. i never did because i didnt want him to cheat on amy. so they broke up in early january. meanwhile he told me he loved me. so i was expecting to be asked out. but then i find out from my friend that he is dating another girl, mary. i didnt say anything to him about it. we stopped talking forlike 2 weeks. i couldnt take it anymore so i started talking to him again and jst acted like nothing was wrong. he kept telling me he loved me. so time went by and i let him cheat on her with me:/ i felt bad but i really loved him and couldnt help myself. he told me that as soon as he was single we would be together. they broke up in early june. (me and him were still doing stuff) just kissing though. anyway he didnt askme out.. so i said somethig to him about it. he said he wasdealing with alot of stuff and didnt want agirlfriend right now. but he also said he wanted to be wiyh me he was just confused. i told him from the start i would wait as long as it took. he constantly told me hes never letting me go. i really love him i just dont know what to do. i need him. im just so depressed anr i cant let him go because he means the world to me. i have no one to talk to. please help me... what can i do( letting go is not an option) :[
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (21 July 2009):
 Don't fall for that line and wait around. If a guy is single and interested in you he will ask you out. He will not ask you to be a side piece. He will not date other women instead of you. He will ask you out because he knows that you are important to him and some other man may come and snatch you up.
Instead, he is telling you he's confused and he won't let you go so he can keep you waiting around while he plays the field. While you sit at home, waiting for him to call you, waiting for him to show you affection and love, he is out partying, totally cool that you'll be there if he can't get anyone else.
Tell him that you really care for him, but that you're tired of waiting and he needs to let you know what's up soon. There's no point in placing your life on hold for a guy that won't make you a priority. He can be in your life all right...as a friend, while you go on dating guys who are smart enough to make you THE girlfriend.
Good luck.
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