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writes: Should I stay in this relationship?I have been with my fiance for almost two years, he has been a wonderful father to my daughter and has helped me raise her since she was 8 months old (he is not the father). About six months into our relationship, I fell into some sort of depression where I did not want to be intimate whatsoever. He pleaded with me for months to snap out of it and when I finally did it was too late because he started a relationship with a co-worker. When I found pictures and love cards from her, I told him I was going to leave him. He swore to me that he would end it. He changed jobs, we moved away about 60 miles from here the relationship took place. Three months later I ended up confronting the woman because he was acting suspicious again. To my surprise he never ended the relationship and to make matters worse she did not even know that he and I were still together. He has been promising her that they were going to get married and told her that he moved and got a new job to better THEIR life together. She was shocked when I told it was all lies and I do not think she wants anything to do with him. It has been about 3 weeks and I am really struggling with this. We still live together and he wants to work it out. He even called her in front of me after it happened to tell her he wanted nothing to do with her anymore and that it was a mistake. But I just can't stomach the lies anymore and do not think I can remain in a relationship like this, let alone get married. He is willing to go to counseling but I just do not know if I can forgive him a second time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2007): I was with a cheating partner, for three years, which now i have a son with who is nearly 2. the realationship ended after 3 years when my son was 3 months old. he cheated twice.. as a result of his cheating he went paranoid and started to have a controlling streak. I gave him an ulimation he changes from his ways or its over... 6 week later he was going to spain with another girl. he told me just friends. 18 months on I have just found out these two have been in a relationship, after all these months of lies. I truely believe he was seeing her b4 we split up....
I think that once is a mistake, twice is not, that when they become 'once a cheater always a cheater'. Only you can make this decision, consider you LO in this as well, as u dont her to be hurt as well.
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reader, DEBS83  +, writes (23 October 2006):
 been through this befoe it is not very nice and drives you mad what you have to do is get out of this realtionship i know this may be hard and something you dont want to do but belive me hes lied to you twice so he will probly do it again but at the end of the day its your choice what you do i made the right choice by leaving my cheating parnter hope you work this mess out good luck
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