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*ttrcpbrklyn1314
writes:Someone please ease my mind! I have known this particular gentleman for about 5 months. We met at Walgreens where we exchanged smiles and had a pleasant conversation. He seems to be very busy with his job, his club and his fitness. So I figured that is a reason why he didn't ask me out often and much time would go by before I would hear from him in the beginning. He recently purchased a house and I have been helping him decorate. For the past month we have spent every weekend together just talking at his home or with his friends at their homes. He's never made a move on me and he has said in the past that he is shy. Although I know he is attracted to me I can't understand why he won't take it to the next level. He contacts me everyday and always asks for my company whether he's at the gym or at home. I think he just has his guard up because he was married and was cheated on some years ago.A few nights ago when we were together at his home he expressed to me that he was very anxious because he has a lot going on at work. I listened to him and he in turn listened to my suggestions. Then I began to express to him some stress I have been dealing with and to my amazement he pointed me in the right direction.He told me that he would always be there for me if I needed anything and he reassured me that I would be fine.I even got a lil teary-eyed but that didn't bother him.Whenever I leave he walks me to my car and gives me a hug. This time we hugged for a while as we continued the conversation. As I drove home, I received a text from him saying that he wanted to kiss me. I asked what stopped him and he couldn't answer me. I wanted to kiss him too but I was chicken :} Why didn't he kiss me?
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reader, bttrcpbrklyn1314 +, writes (10 March 2009):
bttrcpbrklyn1314 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Im 21 and he is 27. I asked him directly and he simply said that he didn't know why. I thought that answer was strange cuz he usually is pretty straight forward with me. I mentioned that I know he is attracted to me and enjoys my company. Honestly that is not enough for me to believe that he would allow me to kiss him. I don't see a reason to take it to another level if that's not what he wants. I think I will just ask him what he thinks of me and if he wants more...
I think I am over analyzing the situation.
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reader, sugar_sugar +, writes (10 March 2009):
 This is something we can only speculate on. There are a number of reasons any guy might be hesitant to kiss a girl, the most obvious being shyness.
If he won't take the lead then maybe you should.
I notice you say he has been married and cheated on years ago, yet you are only 18 - 21 if you've listed your age correctly?
How old is he? Is there a dramatic age difference between you two?
That's another hypothetical reason.
There's only one question you really need to ask, and that is of yourself - Are you going to prod for an answer or make the move yourself?
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reader, anoymitity  +, writes (10 March 2009):
He didnt kiss you for the same reason you didnt kiss him. He was nerves. Apparently this guy has been shy his entire life and thats ok, but he is going to have to eventually break out of his shell. You may have to force him out of his shell and be the first one to make a move. Also he could be dealing with some self-confidence issues due to circumstances of the previous bad relationship
Bottom line, if you want this to progress any ofther then just being "good friends", you will have to make the move and show him its ok. Just stick with it, hes seems like a nice guy! Good luck!
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