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writes: We IM'd, talked on phone, and visits to see me. Every morn. as soon as we woke up we had to say "I love you" before the day started. Every night we talked til we fell asleep. This went on for a month and half, then one morning he asked for a break. This hurt me, so we broke up. Now a month later, whenever I see him, he can't even look at me. I don't contact him, I only see him at sports events. How can someone say "I love you soooo much" and next day, ask for a break? I am confused. I love him. We had a problem being together. I am 14 and he is 17. People at school harrassed him for seeing someone so much younger than him. I think this is why he asked for a break. Do you think there is a chance he will come back to me? I miss him!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2006): He was devoting all his free time to me. Willywombat was right things were rushing too quickly. But he was the one rushing it the most. I feel we were both into each other. He set off an alarm when he asked for "space." I took it to mean he didn't love me anymore. Now a month later I realize that was his way of asking to slow things down. There was no sex as I let him know from the start that was not going to happen and he understood. I don't know how he feels now, only that his IM profile is very sad now and he can't bare to look at me when I do see him which is not too often. Last time I saw him, my mom had to hold me back, because I wanted to lash out at him. Do you think I should contact him as I don't think he is going to contact me since it has been a month now or should I just try to pick up my broken heart and move on?
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reader, smeedle  +, writes (30 January 2006):
 The feelings and things that you do when first in a relationship are fantastic, they lift your heart and mood, but the feelings that someone gives you from being close is very fragile and can easily be broken and by his behaviour and indecision he has hurt you.
He probably meant the nice things he said to you at the time but words are not always sincere and it sounds like he was just playing with your feelings, so my advice is predictable and it is "move on" get a nice bloke, you may find it hard to trust someone for a while but it will come, be strong.
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reader, willywombat +, writes (30 January 2006):
 I think this all went a bit quick for him and he *bottled out*. Thats not to say he didn't mean what he said, but I think your age differences and the pressure from his friends won't have helped.
I can't say if he will come back to you, because you acn never predict another persons behaviour, after all we are all only human. But I do know as hurt as you might be you will get over this.
I don't want to sound patronising, so I am trying hard not to, but you are only young, and by the sounds of this, he was your first love. First love hurts and it very rarely lasts.
I hope you find happiness and good luck for your future.xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2006): Well i have an answer...i just got my heart ripped out by a girl who is 14....coincedence, i am 17, I am still very in love with the girl. It was love at first sight, i saw her in a store and i immediatly chased her till she was mine and i was hers! Very cute story, but she was here in Germany to visit her mom for the summer and she wasnt supposed to come back, so me and her mom convinced her to stay she stayed, we feel in love it lasted 4 months...everything blew me away about her, She was beautiful, cute as hell, she was everything i want. But she started getting confused about staying here, so she had to go back to visit her dad for Christmas, bad feeling about that one! Well the whole time i was here worring about her she had decided she was going to stay. Her 10 yearold brother who had went with her back to the states had come back, and told me that she had been with other guys! Man this just kills me...but the thing is she promised me she was going to come back, she didnt. The thing is I am 17 i know what i want....which was her, she is 14 doesnt want a commitment yet, but my heart is very broken now. But the answer is he probably wont come back because he is not strong enough to deal with his asshole friends, did you have a sexual side of the relationship? if so he will probably come crawling back for that part. if not thats what he is looking for...there are some real pricks out there.
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