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writes:My bf broke up with me about a week back. He said it was bcos of instincts but i wasnt that sure. Later on the SAME night he slips out that he fancies my bestmate. I dont trust her enough to think she didnt do anything for him to dump me for her. And me and her have fallen out over other things now aswell. Me and my ex are still talking and he said that 'shes (ex bestmate) way out of my league' and later confessed he wishes he hadnt finished me. But i see this as him using me as a back up plan. Agree?And when we were dating we joked about sex and me giving him a bj.. i cant help thinking he wants me back too just lose his virginity to me. Which i wouldnt cos im not comfortable with myself. Now my ex bestmate is getting really jealous that im getting some attention of him. Even though they arent together. So she and her bestmates have started saying a load of b*llshit to him that ive apparently said. He believes her over me of course cos she has made out shes little miss innocent in all of this.What should i do cos i like the flirting with him.. but i dont want it to go anywhere or him to use me as a back up plan?!
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reader, dapone 1 +, writes (13 October 2007):
 hi
it seems to me that you are making your life to complicated, there is a simple answer here,when you were together he cant have taken in to account what a great person you must be,he only though of himself and how to loose his virginity, and when he boasted about liking your best mate you did the right thing by breaking up,i would stay away from this person now he has found that your mate is out of his league,he wants to treat you as second best,do not fall for this ploy,you are better than that, tell him you do not want to be his play thing, you want and deserve some who will care only for you and your feeling,and not someone who will use you for their own selfish purpose, i hope this will help, good luck,
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reader, Tommy7  +, writes (11 October 2007):
You are wise not to let him use you. I think you need to expand your group of friends and see what others are doing.
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