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writes:hi! i'm a bit confused because my friend told me that he likes my best friend. i promised him that i wouldn't tell her because he knows she already has a boyfriend. recently though, he has been talking to me more then her and he's starting to act like he likes me. i can't tell if he just sees me as a friend or if he's moved on to me. he used to talk to my best friend all the time but now he has been talking to me more. he is still friends with her but idk lol. i'm also worried that if he does still like her, that he is only friends with me because of that. please help!
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reader, !!anonyma!! +, writes (17 March 2022):
 I agree with Honeypie but it can also be that he is just a nice guy and that is why he talks to you. And yes it could be that your friend is the reason why he is friend with you but it could be also that after telling you how he feels about your friend he feels close to you and that is why he feels safe talking to you that much and really likes you as a friend. There are many possibilities so don't put that much of thoughts into it. Just go with the flow!
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (7 March 2022):
 If I were you I'd keep this VERY platonic with him. You already know he had/has a crush on your friend. So for him to switch to you seems a little like you are his "second option" since he can't get with your friend.
NO ONE wants to be the second choice. That is like coming in 4th at the Olympics. Almost, but not the winner.
He is talking more to you because he knows he doesn't have a chance with HER. But... what would happen if she was single all of a sudden?
Do if I were you, I'd stick to just being his friend.
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reader, kenny  +, writes (7 March 2022):
 Its hard to say if he likes you or not, or is just being friendly because he likes your mate. I do think that he should respect the fact that she already has a boyfriend.
All you can do is keep chatting to him and see what unfolds. Why don't you just ask him outright who he likes and see what he says.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2022): This is a tough question, because only he knows the answer.
You sometimes have to ask straight-up questions, and you can't rely on guessing or drawing conclusions. You can ask him in a roundabout-way, "do you really like me or my friend?"
He may only be befriending you to keep close to her; waiting for his chance should your friend and her boyfriend breakup. Being close to you, also gets him closer to her.
You have to let him know, it's not fair to use you if he really likes her. You'd rather he'd be honest, because you are not some 2nd-prize to no boy! You can remain friends, but there has to be an understanding if that's all it is.
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