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writes:Could you interpret this for me. I sent a msg to this guy 3 months ago! telling him "I think I miss him". He answered 3 months later saying he is sorry he ignored my msg, he was seeing a girl at the time and didn't want to complicate things. And then hoped all is well. Do I respond to this? Just to make things clear he is a guy I dated 5 years ago. I can't say I am still over him but since he ignored me I was trying to move on. I know 5 years is a long time and I need help. I have been to a psychologist. I guess I am very stubborn. Does this mean he is rejecting me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2013): Did you text him completely out of the blue five years later? Or had you kept in touch throughout these five years?Well him not responding for three months was a rejection. He got back to you now I suppose cause he is single again, so he is reopening the lines of communication. But it doesn't sound like he feels the same way. If he did, the fact that you "miss him" would've been fresh in his mind and he would've brought it up. But instead he simply apologized for not responding and made no mention of what you said. So he is avoiding the topic. He doesn't want to be rude to you either so offered you an explanation. Imagine if your boyfriend got a text from an ex claiming she misses him? I'm sure that would make you both uncomfortable so can you blame him for not responding? If you are really curious you could ask him out for coffee and see how he responds. I wouldn't mention any of this "miss you" stuff though. It has been five years, it sounds like he has moved on. But you could try meeting him casually and see if there is still a connection, some sort of spark.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2013): Wait 3 months, then respond.
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reader, femmefatale123 +, writes (7 June 2013):
 Ignore him. If he wants you, he'll pursue you.
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