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*illicentmorgan
writes:Help,my boyfriend recently told me he does not want this relationship, we were dating for a year, we dated 21yrs ago and we were each others first loves, so after 21yrs he called me and we realised that we were still in love with each other, things were great for a while,i have access to his home and he always honest with me , but he has a temper, and when stuff bothers him he won't talk about it, and i seem to be the target all the time and when he is upset he says nasty things to me and always wants to end what we have, i call and try and sort stuff out, and we start the relationship again and it goes great until it happens again and he always says he does not mean what he says when he is upset, the same thing happened a few days ago, so I sent him an email saying I do respect his decision this time , and i have not contacted him at all and he has not has well, i am not sure if he still loves me but i love him, what's up with him saying things he does not mean, how am i suppsed to know, is this love that we shared previoulsy and continued now fate, and do u think it's worth my while sticking around, is this meant to be for us this time round? Reply to this Question
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reader, ocean of bad luck  +, writes (8 February 2008):
if he is constantly threatening to leave you, it isn't a very healthy relationship. he needs to stop doing that. the next time you have a fight, don't call him to sort things out. don't make all the moves, see what he does. if he doesn't contact you at all, he really isn't worth it. because then it would show that you are just convenient for him, a doormat who takes his shit and then apologizes for it and offers to clean it up for him! what is that?? for you to be happy with this man he needs to love and respect you, and you need to NOT constantly be afraid of losing him, which i'm sure you are, with the way he treats you! is this really what you want?
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (8 February 2008):
 When a person is angry , he cannot control his emotions and it comes out straight and it can hurt.
What you should do is not to believe what is said in anger. It is just anger which caused him to lashed out at you since you are like his sand bag.
It is always the one you loved the most that you hurt the most. With friends , they have to control their thoughts but with their love, they don't have any brakes . It comes out in the pure form. They don't mean it and you should not take it to heart.
He still loves you but he feels badly about the way he treated you. When he cools down , everything will be back to normal.
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