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writes:My guy, luke, left me right after sex. Then he stopped talking to me for a week straight. And when i tried to figure out what was going on with him, he got really pissed off and called me psycho. I was just worried about him, i was also confused as to why he left soon after we "had" it. when i was online on facebook, i sent luke a polite message. In the message i asked luke if i could talk things over with him, as in...figure out why he stopped talking to me. When Luke received the message he pretended to be somebody else. Luke's response read: This is Jason, luke's friend, Luke left his facebook window open and he is sleeping right now. After reading that message i knew right away that it was a complete lie! Enraged, i sent Luke another message, but this time a not so polite message. In the message i called him an asshole and a user. I told him that what he did to me was wrong and cruel. Luke responded to my 2nd message by email. Luke's email read: Oh i am madly inlove with my ex. And if you saw us last night at Janina's party, then you would have seen how much fun we were having. I stopped talking to you right after we had sex simply because i still love my ex. We had a wonderful relationship...bla bla bla. And i feel bad for what i did, but you are crazy becuase you tried to figure out what was going on with me, when i told you the truth, i told you i had all this shit going on with me, i felt bad after i had sex with you because i still love my ex. If you continue to bother me with all of your questions and insults then i will make you cry and will lower you to a level that you've never experienced before. After reading his email i cried. I felt so heart broken and used. Luke and i only knew each other for a couple of weeks. and it was only in the second week where we started having sex. and the fact that he left me soon after for his ex, is sooo unbelievable to me. I don't know how i am going to get over this. How can i get over luke?? He really broke my heart?? I know what i have done wrong, and he knows what he did wrong but I still have these feelings of lust for him. I feel soo ashamed and guilty!! What should i do?? I can't concentrate at work and at school! I have to move on with my life!! Please please help me!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2009): Well 2 weeks of knowing you is too short for him to really be into you, plus the fact that he still loves his ex. In short you are just a rebound girl for him. I heard that rebound relationships usually don't last as persons involved are not over yet with their previous one.
As he said things to you through email, then just let it go. You have known him only for two weeks, I believe this is very far from love. You will forget him for sure. Just accept it and get on with your life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2009): omg men can be soo cruel! You will get over it but in the future make sure if you have sex with someone that your in a relationship much longer than 2weeks. Having sex with a person is quite an emotional thing, it took me 7months with my ex to do that with him because that is my fear, sleeping with someone just to have them leave me and feel used. Nothing anybody says at the moment isnt going to help and take away the pain only time and you can do that. Do not email this guy again, if you knew he was him pretending to be someone else you shouldn have left it then because people can be very hurtful. I just feel sorry for this guys ex, hes slept with you, treated you like crap and hes in love with her. I think you should be glad that (dont wanna swear) but an asshole like him isnt in love with you. He cant love his ex that much and he sounds like a cruel horrible person. I know how your feeling with a broken heart, i cried for days when my ex ended it over a txt but at least im away from a loser like him now. Everyone makes mistakes but make sure you learn from them. In years to come youll look back and think god what was i thinking and laugh to yourself how you could feel anything for an asshole like that guy. Do not let him ruin your life, go out with friends, feel what you need to feel but if you leave a horrible person like him ruin you life then hes just won!
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