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*ulialove83
writes:I am seeing/dating this guy whom recently we became sexually involve. The first time he came too quickly within minutes of intercourse. So I didnt say anything. Now it is our fifth times or sixth times and it is still the same. What can I do to help or stop him from ejaculating early? Guys and girls I need help... I am becoming frustrating with him. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2008): peaple should ask him/her advice;the first step in a lasting relationship is comunication.i'm only 19 and iv'e been in a relationship for 2years now and this topic comes up regulary.But my main goal is to fufill her deepest wants and needs.So if you can't last,go downstairs do it right and she will love it.Push the limits and it will keep you both happy.Of course my only thought all day long is showing her that pleasing her pleases me.But i cant imagine any man who would not feel the same.So guys start thinking of her wants and needs think out of the box.And the rest will come on its own.Be content she can tell.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2007): I have some tips to add (these are practical tips which really worked for me)
1. ask him to wear a condom of standard type (no ribs, no dots, no extra length..)
2. hv sex in a ideal condition. never have it in broad day light or open space etc. the condition has to be near dark.
3.hv it in a missionary position. penetrate should not be in full. penis should not go fully inside you. men have sensory nerves at the trunk.
4. if he is agile. hv sex in a standing position. it will be excellent
good luck
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reader, Richard_EMids  +, writes (7 November 2007):
 Hi Julialove83.
He is ejaculating quickly because you excite him so much. Here's a few suggestions:
Have sex, let him ejaculate - wait for a while - play with each other , have sex again, he'll take longer.
Assign one whole day to on & off lovemeking. Make love as many times as you can from morning to night.
Suggest to him he pleasures himself a couple of hours before seeing you.
Try stop/start lovemaking - when he feels he is about a minute away from ejaculating STOP. Allow time for his erection to go down. Once down start him up again. Make love. STOP one minute before ejaculating. Let his erection go down again. And repeat. Three times is enough. He'll probably feel different next time.
Try different positions that don't make him ejaculate so quickly, you on top for example.
This one is really nice - move really slowly when you are lovemaking, really really slow. He should count in his mind 20 seconds from the moment he starts to enter you to the moment he cannot push in any further, & count 20 seconds withdrawing. 20 seconds in/20 seconds out. Each time he enters he pushes at a slightly different angle.
Have fun.
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reader, passion@peaches +, writes (6 November 2007):
 Hi,its very frustrating for you,have you spoke about this with him ?I think you have to let him know in a nice way how you feel,and approach it as just something the two of you can work out,you dont want to cause any more anxiiety,but maybe if you asked him to mastubate with a dry hand and stop just before he is about to climax,now I know all you men are screeming at this point,does this woman know what she's saying,but if he can learn to masturbate and control it a little better just before he comes in other words stops, with a little time he should improve,sometimes this is due to anxiety,or maybe he can use a vibrator on you until you climax and then penertrate,but if you both get involved in the masturbation you are dealing with this together,and things can only get better,the reason I said do it with a dry hand is because if he wets his hand with saliva it really start to feel more sensitive,hope this helps.
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reader, passion@peaches +, writes (6 November 2007):
Hi,its very frustrating for you,have you spoke about this with him ?I think you have to let him know in a nice way how you feel,and approach it as just something the two of you can work out,you dont want to cause any more anxiiety,but maybe if you asked him to mastubate with a dry hand and stop just before he is about to climax,now I know all you men are screeming at this point,does this woman know what she's saying,but if he can learn to masturbate and control it a little better just before he comes in other words stops, with a little time he should improve,sometimes this is due to anxiety,or maybe he can use a vibrator on you until you climax and then penertrate,but if you both get involved in the masturbation you are dealing with this together,and things can only get better,the reason I said do it with a dry hand is because if he wets his hand with saliva it really start to feel more sensitive,hope this helps.
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reader, kenny + ♥, writes (6 November 2007):
 I don't know if you do it but foreplay can be a very effective method in postponing the finishline. Also if when he is in the middle of love making and he feels like he is going to ejaculate to soon, tell him to withdraw and maybe go back to some foreplay or something. Then in a couple of minutes or so resume the lovemaking, get him to repeat this process every time he is going to ejaculate to soon.
Hope this helps x
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reader, pyan  +, writes (6 November 2007):
Hi
do you use forplay or do you go stright into sex. many years ago my wife and i learned the rewards of spending time playing with each other so that when the sex part came she would it was the last part of a multiple orgasam. if i took 1 min or 10mins she was ok with it.
if he go at it like a bull at a gate this may get him to slow down if he cums in forplay. then by the time he has recoved he should last longer.
if you want to talk further message me
good luck
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