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He puts my friend before me am I just being paranoid?

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Question - (23 July 2010) 2 Answers - (Newest, 23 July 2010)
A female United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

I met this guy online (called Greg) and we talk almost everyday. We use to be really and play lots of games together on ps3. I was sick for a week and I was offline for that week and in the meantime my friend befriended another girl. Now he only talks to me if she has gone to sleep for the night or if she is tired of playing a game with him. I told him that i had feelings for him and he said he liked me too and wanted a relationship with me but we are waiting until we meet seen as he lives in another country. But I thought he would want to spend more time with me but he always puts me behind her. They have been exchanging gifts too, which upset me because he has never done the same for me even though he said he would. I hate feeling like i'm being used but thats how it feels. He gets jealous if I talk if i'm speaking to anyone on hotamil or the ps3. With this girl she already has a family and a bf but the bf doesnt like them talking to each other either and he deletes his text messages from her phone if they are from Greg. Greg tells me they are just friends but ii think he wishes for more if she wasnt already involved. Should I be worried..should i just forget this guy or am I being paranoid and over thinking things?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2010):

Thanks for your advice i'm going to do what you advice and become less avaliable to him. I'm tired of being treated second best

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A reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2010):

I personally think that if he really felt the same way as you do about him, he would put you first before this other girl, especially since she has a boyfriend and his contact with her is causing problems. I suspect he may like her more than he is letting on. I may be wrong, but that is my opinion on this. I think it might be best to not be so available to him. Back away for a while, and see what happens. He might realise what he is losing and try and change things. Or he may not seem concerned. I think that, by his reaction, you will have an idea of where you stand. But I think he may just be keeping you around incase things don't go as he would like with the the girl. Don't allow him, or anyone else for that matter, to treat you as second best. You deserve to be put first. Take care. x

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