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writes: Hey im 15 yrs old turning 16 today I had sex for the first time! It did'nt last long but he didnt have a condom and he pulled out and he wiped it off and put it back in. It was only like a 10 min thing. But I have one more week until my next period what should I do if it skips?? or will it be usual to skip?? and what can I do to make sure that this 10 min didnt get me pregnant or to prevent me from getting pregnant?
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (16 November 2006):
 By the time you have missed your next period it is kind of a tiny bit too late to do anything to prevent pregnancy. Within 72 hours you can take the emergency contraceptive pill and for up to 5 days afterwards you can have a uterine coil fitted to prevent implantation of a fertilised egg (i.e. pregnancy). I think you know that having sex without a condom is certainly risky behaviour. This is not about the boy concerned but primarily about you and you developing self-respect for your own body and not accepting such shoddy standards in 'bedroom behaviour' from any boy. The heat of the moment is the usual excuse...but looking after babies as a teenager is not good or treating STDs. As you are discovering sex with teenage boys is not the fireworks and champagne experience you may have hoped for - they don't know what they are doing, they orgasm quickly and what they know about women's bodies can be written on the back of a postage stamp...this is why it is much better to wait until you are older to have sex, and to have sex in a meaningful relationship.
You should hold onto those feelings of anxiety and stress you have right now and remember that for next time. If you don't take the emergency pill or use a coil now and wait to find out if you have missed a period, you then have to decide what to do if you are pregnant - you need to tell someone (an older sister, mother, teacher) if you find yourself in big trouble. I hope you are not pregnant at 15 as that is a very grim prospect but you have to accept if you are 'mature' enough to have sex, then you are mature enough to manage contraception and the consequences of sex and mature enough to tell any boy who wants to stick it in you 'no thanks' unless they are armed with condoms.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2006): This is not an attack on you personally but it is shocking that in the 21st century, you at age 16 have not had an adequate sex education.
1. From the moment an erect penis enters your vagina you can become pregnant.
2. When a guy ejaculates, sperm is released in to your body, this sperm lives in your body for up to 4 or 5 days. An egg can live between 24 - 48 hours. Therefore a women can be furtile for 7 days. If your period is due in 1 week, you could fall pregnant.
3. If you don't want to get pregnant, use contraception. You can take the contraceptive pill but you must follow the instructions to the letter, you can not miss your doses.
4. Unless you use a condom, you also risk catching a sexually transmitted disease, this could lead to becoming infertile if it is not treated. You too can pass on diseases to other people you have sex with. STDs can also be very disgusting that involve fungus, infections, warts, they are not good and some of them are incurable.
Follow stinas advice on getting the morning after pill if it is within 72 hours. The quicker you take it, the more effective it is.
And please - go and learn about sex before you attempt to do this again - it would be a shame that spending a few minutes allowing a guy to ejaculate in you could result in you being a mother for the rest of your life.
Take care of yourself in future and I hope things work out for the best...
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reader, Dr. Reality Check +, writes (16 November 2006):
 Get a pregnancy kit as soon as possible! Chances are, you're pregnant, as even if he wiped it off, there still would have been semen inside which probably would have come out when you carried on.
That could have been the most costy 10 minutes of your life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2006): It only takes one drip, so I sugguest you make him use a condom. I agree with the morning after pill, you are too young to have children yet. Definitely get on birth control.
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reader, stina  +, writes (16 November 2006):
 Hi Anon,
Please call your doctor right away and get the morning after pill (it's basically just a huge dose of birth control pills). It will make you sick to your stomach and will probably force you to go on your period sooner than usual, but it should stop you from getting pregnant. Plan on feeling ill for about a day while taking it because of all of the hormones. Green tea always calms my stomach, so maybe you should buy some of that.
You also need to make sure that your partner always wears a condom from now on. Better yet, ask your doctor about birth control when you call him/her up!
***This has to be done w/in the next 72 hours. THE SOONER THE BETTER!!***
Take care.
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