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writes:MOD NOTE: Poster is 14....NOT 23....My boyfriend and I have been dating since November 16th 2008. We also dated in the summer of 2008.I am fourteen, he is fifteen. I've liked him since the summer of 2007, so when he announced he liked me in the summer, I was head over heels happy! Well.. too bad, we couldn't live happily ever after from there.. About nine days ago, we had sex. I've had a few bad past experiences with boyfriends and what not, so I didn't want to jump into this intimate part right away. I know what your thinking, she's only fourteen, she shouldn't even be thinking about this stuff right now! Truth is, I lost my virginity at thirteen. But, that's besides the point.Well, my boyfriend he pressures me to have sex. He doesn't exactly like jump on me and say he wants to have sex with me, and then I say no but we do it anyways. I tell him I don't want too, but he basically says all the right things to make me want to do it. I know we wouldn't if I just gave in but I do say no alot of times but eventually I just feel that I have too.That's really bad isn't it? Well to top it ALL off. We had unprotected sex and a couple of days ago, I was experiencing a little bit of bleeding and feeling very nauseous. My next period isn't until the first week of Feb, so I don't know if I am or not because well, I haven't exactly missed it yet. He says he 'pulled' out right before, but is it still possible to be pregnant, with this early of symptons?My boyfriend isn't exactly a bad guy. He bends over backwards for me and I truly appreciate it, and as much as I like him, I don't know if I should ditch him too...Help!
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reader, bich-15  +, writes (11 January 2009):
 I know how you feel hunny I'm 17 and have had a similar experience with the whole no protection thing. you should get yourself a test and have it ready in case you do miss your period. pulling out is a load of crap because there is always a small amount of pre-cum before he actually does... because the last thing you need at you age is to be pregnant.
If you haven't already, let him know about your previous experiences and him being pushy makes you feel uncomfortable. If you really are starting to feel too pressured by him for sex, then maybe you should think about sitting down with him and talking about it or ending it with him.
All the best hun!!!!
xXxXx love Bich xXxXx
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reader, Blue_Angel0316 +, writes (11 January 2009):
 Well as you said you are too young to be having sex anyway. The young man, no matter what he does or doesn't do for you has no right in pressuring you to have sex. Don't let ANYONE ever push you into doing something that you don't want to do.
Bits and pieces of affection and any gifts he can give you are simply NOT WORTH loosing your DIGNITY AND SELF-RESPECT!
I will say that when you wait on anything in life it makes the thought and feelings about it all the more sweeter. I urge you to STOP giving yourself away to just anyone. Hon if you have been sexually active since 13, you have no idea what harm you are doing to yourself. Your life has ALREADY been forever changed and there is no turning back but you CAN make things better if you STOP those actions NOW!
Each time you have sex wtih someone you are setting yourself up for a fall. Each time when the guy walks away you are left only to pick up the pieces and START ALL OVER AGAIN. You are already worrying about pregnancy, the best way to avoid getting pregnant is by NOT HAVING SEX! For your question, no you can't tell in a couple of days. However you are certainly at HIGH RISK since you didn't use protection. Not using protection can be serious, the risks of disease and pregnancy is great.
It seems to me that either you are trying to keep up with PEER PRESSURE or are looking for LOVE and ATTENTION, OR PERHAPS YOU JUST DO IT BECAUSE YOU ARE REBELLING OR SOME OTHER REASON. You have already lost your innocence, don't ruin the rest of your life. Live your youth, without the pressures of sex! Take your time in becomming sexually active with ANYONE! It will give you LESS regrets, emotional stress and Fears.
You need to find a trusted adult, preferrably your parents if you can to talk to about your problems. This site can be or great help as most of us have experienced our own problems and we can share experiences and forsight. Many of us have children or grandchildren who are teens. I have a 13 1/2 year old granddaughter myself. I pray she never thinks of going so far out there so early in her life. You've got a long life to live hon PLEASE SLOW DOWN and TAKE EVERY PRECAUTION to LIVE IT FULLY without the PRESSURES OF SEX. You really do have PLENTY OF TIME FOR THAT LATER!
Let this young man know that you won't be having sex from here on out. Set goals and make your life a better one. Anyone can make mistakes but what you choose to do about them is what really matters in the end. If you need to talk you can write me anytime. I will do my best to help.
BEST WISHES ALWAYS and remember.............
GOD IS WATCHING and YOU CAN FIND STENGTH IN HIM!
God bless,
Blue_Angel
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