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writes:Hello. I'm 7 months pregnant and im so in love with my baby daddy. We've been together for 1 year and 2 weeks already and when we first started it was wonderful i loved it.. He didnt have a job but i made sure he had everything he needed we was just so happy together. We started dating when we was gong 2 school together (college).. As the months started 2 go by, we had ups and downs but we always told each other that we will never walk away from each other. I lived with him for 5 months due 2 problems i was having with my apartment.I loved him 4 letting me stay with him, and his mom also was ok with that. I moved out months after and got another apartment but i made sure he had keys no matter what. Thats how much i loved him, and still do. And after months went past he got tired of asking me and his mom and dad for things, but he was never a bad person at all. Never been in jail, never was a trouble child just 1 time but it didnt change anything, he was still ok. He had his first child at age 18 (a girl) and now she's 2. I love her like she is my own. My son makes his second child and im so happy about him coming into this world soon he will be my first child. My baby daddy turned 2 the streets to get his money and im not goin to lie i was ok with that, knowning that i shouldn't have been but i loved him no matter what it was. He got tired of me tellin him he need a job but i felt like there wasnt nothing wrong with me saying that, thats just what i wanted him to do just so he can better his life and we can have a happy family and life together. He got in the streets and it changed everything about him. he wasnt like that at first because he was somwwhat new at this but the streets got him now. He was going to jail, never had a background and now he has a background on probation, things that wasnt happening before has started to happen and i still loved him for everything that he has came but he change towards me. He's hurting my feeling like crazy, and im pregnant and i need him a lot, but he choose 2 be in the streets with new friends and do everything but be with me. i was by his side before the streets and the new friends he has now that he put before me. He broke up with me on my birthday because all i wanted was for him to take me out and spend time with me thats all i asked of him. I cried but i always cry cause i want him to change and be a better man for me and his kids and he seems to not understand that right now. He feels good about everything that he is doing now, and im not evening playin a part like i used to in his life no more and its crushing me so bad cause i want to be with him no matter what. He's a big head now and the money coming in he aint the same no more. I hope and pray every day that god would take everything that he is doing away from him, but he tells me he loves me and he's in love with me, but i also get im tired of you mouth but everything i say is being concerned about his life and why did you let the streets change you like this.He never spends time with me, he didnt buy or do anything with me for my birthday but i made sure he got what he wanted from me for his birthday, he dont want me around, i dont spend the night over his house no more. Why do me like this? i love him so much, and im hurting every day and all i want is 2 be with him. but i dont know what to do no more, im confused and tired and i feel like i cant live my life without him. I JUST DONT KNOW..
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reader, kalykush +, writes (2 November 2010):
 hi. im so sorry you're going through this. im going through exactly the same thing as well. except mine isnt in the street life he sjust deciding to pay more attention to the wrong people instead of his pregnant lady.
im gonna have to say as hard as it is. you need to cut him out of your life. you can pray - i pray twice a day- but dont get your hopes up. cut off all contact you should only speak when it concerns the baby and nothing else.
stop telling him you love him. that will only push him further away from you.
take back the keys you gave him.
it will be hard but you can do it.
im only 5.5 months pregnant but my situation is the same.
he had no job i made sure he had what he needed. he gave me what he could when he had it - at that time yes he was in the street life but never got caught-
after about 4 months he got a pretty decent job. hes been there ever since. however around his bday he decided to break up with me after he broke up with me i found out i wwas pregnant. he wasnt happy cuz i guess he wanted-or still wants to- be alone.
anyways we just passed our 1 year mark going on 1yr 2mnts but its hard we talk a lot but its not the same.
my advice is to just cut him out of your life before you drags u and ur baby down
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (2 November 2010):
 This guy is having his cake and eating it too and proving yet again that anyone can be a father but it's a true man who can be a Dad. Cut this guy out of your life he's treating you like a convience store.
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reader, RN04 +, writes (2 November 2010):
Hi there,I feel your pain. :( It sounds to me like your man has changed. I don't really know why men do this. Especially when they have something so good right in front of their faces and they do everything in their power to ruin it all. It's truly disgusting. I think your real only option is to tell him that you want him to quit the street life and have a family with you. Tell him that he can't have it both ways. Unfortunately, it sounds like it's time for him to make a choice. You supported him in his decision before to turn to that way of life and now it's not working for you. Tell him that he's done it long enough and you've had enough. Make him choose. You and the baby. Or street life. Hopefully he makes the right choice.P.S. Can you help me at all with my question? :( http://www.dearcupid.org/question/im-in-love-with-the-man-that-he.html
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