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writes: Hi, I ve been with my bf for 2 years, im 20 hes 22.We love each other very much. I depend so much on him, i like callin him everyday, talkin to him, see him in college between classes if i can. I cant get enough from seein him.But he doesnt like that, he rathers if we didnt see each other everyday, only in weekend and not call each other.Im being clingy, he says and im not giving him space for his own life. He says there should be his own private life.But i dont see its wrong, since we only go out on saturdys , and i only see him between classes on Tuesdays and thursdyas.Isnt a relationship having one life? Is he pushing me away? DOesnt he love me anymore?He hates the fact that recently im becoming very jealous. He doesnt like that! but i cant help it!What should i do?i only have spring left and then i grduate, i wont bother him in college anymore.I just miss him all the time!
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reader, chlez83  +, writes (28 November 2007):
It's quite normal to feel like that.You need to find things that can keep you busy because just sitting idle will make you miss him alot.But tell him restricting calls to weekends is too much,maybe three times a week can do.Unless he doesn't miss you as well.The best thing to do is to call him less and reduce visits.If he still complains,cut all communication till da weekend arrives.He'll definitely badge as he'll also one day want you the same way you want him and you can decide whether to treat him the way he's treating you.Don't ever sound or look desperate even if you love him and concetrate on your studies,you are about to graduate.Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2007): I'm very clingy as well and thats because I love him so much. In the beginning of the relationship, I want to be with him all the time. This gave him the upper hand and we both knew it. He didn't treat me all that well. He yelled at me, broke up with me a couple of times, and even threw me out of car once. Then, I decided to be a bigger person, give him his space, let him go (thats up to you) and only talk to him when he wanted to. I continue to do my own thing until eventually, he wanted to be with me and started getting a little jealous as well. I got the upper hand at that point and still have it to this day, lol :)
p.s.- I'm still clingy but he dares not complain. He actually likes it because he knows he is always on my mind and no other guy is. It makes him feel secure. He's definitely a man now and not the little boy that I started dating!
I don't know if this will work for you but I can only suggest to be more confident in yourself and realize you are an equal in the relationship. If he only wants to see you on weekends and not talk to you at all on the weekdays, that is not fair to you. It seems as if he has all the control and that should not be the case. He should be lucky and happy that you are going out of your way to want to be with him and rekindle the relationship.
Although, I'm a little hesitant on the length of the relationship. You stated you've been with this guy for two years. That's a long time and he should have got it by now and not be acting this way. My guy was a jerk in the beginning of the relationship. He didn't change until our 8th/9th month and we have been together for 1 1/2 years.
It seems like you are a great girl and you have a lot of love to offer someone so if this guy isnt willing to give you the same amount of affection, and attention, then he's not worth it. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2007): The reason he probably only wants to see you on the weekends is because he's probably seeing another girl on the weekends and doesn't want you to find out. I'd dump his ass.
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reader, sophiejade  +, writes (27 November 2007):
huni u sound to gd for this man!seems like he wants to lead to lifes thats not possable he sd want to show u off ,want to spend every spare moment with u,if u need to talk im not facebook as sophie-jade sharpxxx
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reader, maggie1987 +, writes (27 November 2007):
 well if he doesnt want to see you except at weekends i would finish him especially when youve been together for 2years if you arent living together then you shouldnt need to be with each other every day but you should see each other more than once or twice a week maybe along the lines of 5 days a week. theres no point hanging around if hes just interested in a weekend thing tell him ur better than that and u deserve some one so much better than him
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2007): You're acting like you're married to him. It's natural - in fact, it's healthy to have a seperate life outside of a relationship. I think you should give him the space he wants.
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