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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hello, My boyfriend broke up with me this past May. He is a Marine stationed across the country from where I'm attending college. Since January he had been begging me to give up my senior year in college, move to his base and marry him. I obviously said no to that even though I told him I wanted to eventually get married. He called me drunk and left me a voicemail breaking up with me after not speaking to me at all for 3 weeks (he had his phone with him the whole time!) I called him back probably 12 times until he finally answered me that day. I have a feeling it was because I wouldn't give up my life and move there to be with him but he claimed it was because he just isn't good enough for me, I deserve better.. the whole works. We haven't spoken once since even though he ended the phone call saying he wanted to be friends but just give it time. Well it's been 5 months and in those 5 months, he has called me 3 times. Each time I have missed his call by only a few seconds/minutes. I call back immediately because I really do want to talk to him. I admit, I still feel like I'm in love with him (we dated for 2.5 years and were best friends for 5 years before that). The problem is as soon as I call back, he won't answer!! I don't know why he does this to me but I feel like it really sets me back every time. I get my hopes up to talk to him and it's as if he's playing some sick game with me. This happened again tonight and I texted him after I called him 2x and told him not to call me if he doesn't genuinely want to speak with me. It's been 4 hours and I haven't heard anything back. It drives me crazy and makes me really upset that he does this.I blocked his facebook just now even though he had deleted me as a friend back in May. I feel I should also block his number because it only upsets me more when he does this.What do you think? Do you think he's playing a game to see how much I really want to talk to him? If so, I'm losing pretty badly at it..Thanks in advance, your answer really is appreciated!
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (14 October 2012):
 He couldn't wait for you to finish school so he dumped you? That is just ridiculous.
I would honestly block his number and make sure you kick him off all your social websites.
HE IS messing with your head. He doesn't WANT you to move on, but apparently he doesn't want to be with your either.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (14 October 2012):
 yes block his number and move on honey...
he's playing games...
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2012): " I have a feeling it was because I wouldn't give up my life and move there to be with him but he claimed it was because he just isn't good enough for me, I deserve better.. the whole works."
No, he met someone else or was busy playing the field and didn't want to be tied down to you is all. I wouldn't take his calls or call back.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2012): I think he's tossing you a bone to see how far you'll jump.Listen your study's are important and yes you may love him, but he is by his actions becoming very controlling and do you really want to give up your independence to find yourself controlled, I would think not.. Keep studying, if he calls don't ring back instead send him a simple text.Say "sorry I missed your call very busy here.. But I do think we need to speak at some point otherwise I don't understand why your calling ? I will not be returning your call this time as previously you never answer mine.. However as an adult I am prepared to talk . I'm available between what time on what date and if you do not call on that date time do not call me again.."Be firm, take control, . Don't let him mess with your head. If he misses you, he will relent and call and talk if he playing games he will not..Take care sweetie study hard..
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