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writes:My b/f of 3 yrs. and I have had a long-standing disagreement about something. We are always running into people who know him (mostly women) yet he rarely ever introduces me. They give him a hug, ask how the kids are doing, how the job is going, what's "new" in his life and they keep looking at me in wonderment. My b/f gives them all the details of his life, except for one thing - Me. When I've told him this bothers me, he blows me off, says I'm making too much out of nothing. Says some people don't need to know that much about his personal life (funny, but he went to great lengths to tell them about his job, his kids and his hobbies as of late)...So today at the supermarket, we bumped into a cute physician that I used to work for and we chatted for a moment about how his practice was going and then we hugged and said good-bye. I never once introduced him to my b/f and he blew his stack when we were out of earshot of the cute doctor. I told him for one thing, I have introduced him to this person earlier in our relationship (it's not my fault he doesn't remember him) and secondly I did sort of want to give him taste of his own medicine. Turns out he really thinks it's not nice and a little disrespectful to stand there gabbing to someone without introductions. Duh! I told him now, maybe he'll understand why it bothers me when he does the same. Unfortunately my b/f says I'm being spiteful. I think it's the only to make him understand something that mere "words" have failed up until now. Do you think I went too far???..... Reply to this Question
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (20 July 2009):
 I'm with satindesire on this one. Stick to your guns.
Is he the type of person that must always be right, no matter what? Has he ever been wrong, and apologized?
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (20 July 2009):
You definitely did the right thing. He doesn't introduce you and gives details of his life...but you're a very big detail! Hello! He needed a reality check, and you gave it to him. Good job. Like satindesire said, don't apologize. If it's not such a big deal like he plays it off to be, then maybe he should shut his mouth.
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (19 July 2009):
 No you didnt go far enough. You should have grabbed the Doctor's ass and given your BF a real shock...just kidding!
No, he conveniently leaves you out, so he can flirt. Then he has the same treatment done to him(as a little reminder) and blows up? He's a disrespectful idiot. He is a prime example of a guy that deep down would cheat if he thought he could get away with it. You can do so much better than this dork.
You should do it again the next time top drive your point home. He does not understand why this is wrong BECAUSE HE DOES NOT RESPECT YOU!
He should be apologising to you asap...what an asshole!
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