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writes:Alright. This is a really long story and I'm not really sure if I'll explain this right, but I'm sure this is worth a try. I've had an amazing boyfriend who I love dearly for the passed two years. He has always been there for me and has accepted everything about me. I have a situation at home where I lost my mother a few years ago and I spent most of my time alone at home due to my father's work situation. Throughout the last two year we have spent almost all of our time together - and spend almost every single weekend together alone. We had a very serious relationship. A year ago or so we broke it off and took a break. This was because we didn't believe that we were communicating enough. During this break he asked me for everything he had given me back - gifts, borrowed items, etc. That lasted about 2-3 months and then we both decided that we would try it again. It was almost perfect.Recently, we've been arguing a lot. About the stupidest and ridiculous things. I'm always the one who starts them because I just take all my stress out on him. I know I can fix it and I'm starting/will be starting to get help with it within the next two weeks. We're staying friends right now and staying in contact. We've discussed that there is a possibility of getting together if everything works out again - but he believes it won't be for a while. However, our friendship is confusing because he's either acting like a friend or he's acting as if were a couple. What's even more confusing is that, this time our break is different and he wants nothing back at all - i have some very important things he has given me. hes also got things in the room that should probably remind him of us, such as pictures and gifts etc, unless he threw them out within the last few days. We have also spoke about going to our graduation trip together - like we originally planned.I really need some advice on what to do. How do I get him to believe that I'm really going to try and not take things out on him and I'm getting help for stress management?
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reader, AlwaysHereToHelp!  +, writes (8 March 2011):
 Hello :)
Well this does seem like a hard situation to be in but it is ovbious that he must still have some feelings for you if hes kept the pictures and gifts.
Perhaps he is just not sure he can be with you now, after all he has tryed to be with you every step of the way and when you take out all your stress on him it must hurt him quite alot.
But its good now your trying to get help and find other ways to take out your stress, and i do understand how hard it can be if your with someone all the time and your stressed you just take it out on the nearest person.
Sit down with him and tell him that you love him soo much and you are sorry for takeing stuff out on him explain to him exactly how you feel and tell him that you are going to get help and your going to find other ways to take out your stress, if perhaps he doesnt beleive you or is doubtful. then ask him to give you another chance maybe perhaps just to be with eachother for a few days or maybe even a date tell him that if you prove to him that you can do this will he give your reltionship another go ?
Hopefully he will say yes and then you can prove to him that you can do it, aand if he ses no then well if he still has all the gifts and pictures maybe he will come around in time.
Hope this helps ;)
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